mother in-law

Q: My mother in law ill treats me through her tongue. Her words are harsh and hurting. My husband is very supportive and a pious man. He takes care of my every need. I am three months pregnant. I feel stressed out all the time because of my mother in law hurtful words. I stay silent when she insults me. But then I suffer from anxiety and constant headaches. Please guide me how to overcome this problem.

Q: I have a very weird question and you may think I am being irrational but please hear me out. I am married to my husband of 4 years and we have a young infant. I have been noticing for the past year or so that my Mother has taken a liking to my husband. And it is not in a civil Mother in law way, she likes him romantically. I have thought I could be misled and confused but this is why its taken me a year to be fully convinced. I will explain some of the things she does to clarify my assumptions. Firstly i do not live with my parents I stay there every school holiday. My Mum has become very nosy if i am on my phone she comes to look at it. If i am alone in my room with my daughter and my husband video calls she would barge in and interfere (take note she pulls my daughter and gets on the video to him). She always takes my phone. When my husband comes she tries to get his attention she walks by him from the next room in a way where she cant see me but she looks at him. Another thing is she is absolutely furious when i tell her that my husband is loyal. Take note she is always trying to cause problems e.g. his family are bad to you. She wants me to tell him and it always causes us to fight and its silly things. She does this when nobody is around. She also tries to get him closer to my sisters. For example my husband eight now is on holiday so my mum asked me if hes enjoying it and i had told her that he is actually bored. The next thing i see is she rings my sister and tells her that my husband is bored he needs someone to talk to. Basically indirectly telling her to call him. She tries to make me jealous with my own husband. Bare in mind i think my husband knows this i am sure she told him things in my absence. He has told me that my mum is bad so i'm sure he knows. There are so many examples but those are basic things i have noticed. She acts like she is his 'thauba' wife because when my brothers want to eat she acts like it is not her job. She takes my daughter and acts as if shes here to visit. She doesnt like me bonding with my child. Please help me is there a dua or something i can read on her? I trust my husband but i feel like what if he listens one day. I hate to say this but she is acting like a shaythan always trying to come in between our marriage.

Q: My question is in Islam is it obligatory for a person to look after his mum or mother in-law?

Q: I am working in the government for some time but have started an Aalimah course part time. I am uncertain of resigning due to challenges at home as relationship between mum in-law not very good and work was my scapegoat. However if I am at home, we will clash even more. Is it okay form me to work part time as I foresee more problems at home and I also do not communicate well with husband as he narrates everything to his mum. Pls advise.

Q: A cousin of mines would like to know about the following circumstances. She stays with her in-laws. Cooks twice a week for the family and helps out when she can. Once a week she visits her parents for a few hours. This is according to her husband's wishes and also keeps her parents happy. However her in-law's especially her mother in-law does not like this. She complains to my cousin of shirking her responsibility but she will never say anything in front of my cousin's husband. Is this true? What exactly is her responsibility to her husband and her parents? Or to his? What will Allah Ta'ala hold her accountable for?

Q: I want to ask that I take care of my mother in-law who is unable to walk because of a weak spine. But she understands everything. She is mentally alright. But she shows that she doesn't understand how she urinates or other things. So I warn her for doing all this. Am I doing a gunnaah if I warn her? Please advise me because I find it very difficult to do all that work.