asking for divorce

Marital problems

Q: After 1 day of our marriage, my husband has told everyone that he doesn't liked me as it was an arranged marriage. However he saw me after engagement and was satisfied but now after marriage he says he will not live with me.he does not come home and sleeps in another room,dont even look at me and not reply my salam.I haven't told my family about me.My inlaws behave good with me and they all like me.what should i do?

Talaaq

Q: Agr biwi jinnat ki mareeza ho aur bemari ki halat main kahy k mje talaq do aur shohar sirf usy manany k liye kahy k acha deta hn taky woh shor na kary... talaq ki koi neyat na thi na hi koi jhagra hua tha.. is main rehnumai farma dain

Marital issues

Q: My wife wants us to stay in the marriage for the sake of the kids. She does not trust me and I have hurt her many times. But I know she wants us to stay together for the sake of the kids. Also I know that she wants to abuse me mentally as she has done for the past seven years. I have done wrong and I admit it. However I know that all she wants us to stay together for the children, but I am 100 percent sure that she also wants to abuse me verbally so that I can be punished. Is this correct? I don't want to be with her anymore but everybody feels that I should not divorce her for the kids. I feel I will just be living a lie and I feel that if she does not care about me, why should I live with her. I am fully prepared to look after my kids following the sharia. Please advise, is she correct or do I have a right to get a divorce?

Husband forcing his wife to remove her niqaab

Q: Husband is against niqaab and compells wife to mingle with his family male members. He doesnt want to divorce her but pressuring and humiliating her for changing her to speak to men and fights for the same. Wife is keen on covering herself and wants to know if she can divorce her husband? Will Allah have anger on her if she do so? Their kid is 8 years old, will she get the custody of her kid?

Asking for khula

Q: My husband and me live in the same house which is my parents house and my husbands in laws house. My father kept his account card with his permission to save alot of money. People were jelous of our relationship as husband and wife. We had alot of arguments. Later he started to threaten me to leave me and he also use to mention talaq though it wasnt given. One day he left us and went back to his parents house undercover. After two weeks he decides to come back showing fake guiltiness so I didnt let him in the house. After a month he decided to go back to his parents as I never took him back. He is there and has spent almost all the money we saved for him he cant provide for his wife telling her this is my money, I work, dont touch my card. He threatens me of giving talaq and so forth. I feel I cannot fulfill the religious obligations. Would it be correct for me to ask for khula?

Wife asking for a divorce

Q: If a husband and wife are fighting and the wife asks for a divorce but the husband has no intention to give divorce and remains silent, then the wife again says that I can't live with you and husband unintentionally says okay but no intention of divorce at all. Now the wife said to him that since you said okay to my statement, our marriage is over. Please explain if it is a divorce even if the husband did not utter anything except okay. If it is a divorce then how many take place? 

Marital problems

Q: I was engaged to a boy for 4 months and then in order to avoid any sin we decided to do nikaah without telling our parents as they decided to wait for both of us to complete our education before getting us married. However, both families had pure and hearty intentions to get us married without any objection. Now it has been a year since we have done our nikaah in presence of two witnesses who were his friends. The disputes between us have been increased to unbearable limits now. My family has also found some unignorable facts about his family due to which they are having second thoughts. This guy who is my husband has abused me mentally so much that I have completely lost my self respect, my personality, my life goals and now he has also started to disrespect my family. I changed my complete self to keep him happy and yet he is still not satisfied at all with me. He fights with me and goes away for months, doesn't talk to me for months and I never know where he is and what he is doing. At this point my family has seen me depressed all the time and they, including myself has decided to get separated from him and his family. Now when I decided to get khula from him I started studying how it is done. It looks simple but we didn't register our nikaah nor we did any paper work. How should I proceed? Please guide me. And also I've been reading contradicting articles, some says nikaah is not valid without the girl's parents presence and some say in Hanafi mazhab it is valid if the girl is sane and adult. Please guide me through this issue as soon as possible.

Marital problems

Q: Talaq... Been married to my husband for a year and a half was arranged and love marriage. First couple of months were good then started having arguments. I knew before marriage he smoked weed but he said he would give up after marriage and not smoke it anymore, he lied he always did. Last couple of months of months found out he also drinks alcohol been over a year i never knew before marriage. Since last month he has demanded a divorce saying how the marriage life is not for him he wants the single chilling life. He always disrespects me and has hit me once or twice but for sake of Allah i have always forgiven him, given him countless chances but after hearing the word divorce from his mouth that is when I realized he doesn't deserve me at all or another chance. He has even said he will never stop smoking or drinking and i have waited over a year and done my best to help him change but all my efforts have gone to waste! I have come to my parents house and after couple of months of days he texted me saying he wants a divorce about 2 times and then swore at me. It has been 2 weeks now and i have made a decision to divorce him as i feel it is the best decision for me as i really want a husband on the deen. But our parents are making it hard especially his trying to keep us together and blaming me for everything that has happened and saying how people will talk if we divorced. But we are here to please Allah and not people. Nearly everyday I hear my husband telling me how he wants to be single or find another woman and in anger i ask.why did u marry me if u wanted to be single and chill out ?! He flirts with girls on social media and has no respect for me whatsoever. I feel like his love for me has been fake all this time and i feel betrayed and hurt by him. I feel he will never change even ppl who know him say that to as he has been this way for many years but his parents did not tell me the full truth about him before marriage. His mum said he is home 10pm every night when really he goes out at that times and comes home at half 12 or 1am! please help.