hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I was sitting and reading Quraan and thoughts about hurmate musaahara came to my mind. I'm really scared to shake my father hands. I don't have no feeling for him but the thought comes now that is my step mums  and dads nikah valid? I was sitting and reading Quraan and this thought and image came in my mind that I was young, in my teens probably, and my dad was lying down and he had on a lungi.Probably the lungi was open and I was sitting by the leg side and from the bottom, when he widened his legs I could see the testicals. Does my step mums nikah break with dad? I can't even remember exactly but I'm not even sure if i saw the testicals or penis, but obviously I won't have no lust for him.I don't think there was even lust but I'm just getting these thoughts if dads nikah is valid.

Q: I have contracted a second marriage secretly. When my first wife found out some months later I confessed and openly went to live with her. The family being very upset did not accept this, the reason being

1. She worked in our store.

2. My son claims to have been intimate with her. He took her out for coffee and kissed her and also wanted to marry her.

3. She had some bad reputation /drugs /drinking /men.

4. She has an illegitimate son.

She became Muslim without being forced. I divorced her to keep every one happy she went into a depression and left town tried committing suicide. I felt I should help her. Her mother and father asked me to assist. Taking me as her husband, I took her back in nikkah again secretly. I brought her back home but could not live with her because of my family. I promised to take care of her. Is my intention and feeling to keep her due to the fact that I've seen her become a good woman? She now feels Islam is not just due to my actions. I've explained to her that due to the fact that she became Muslim all her passes sins would be forgiven, including my sons allegation that he slept with her which she deny's.

The question here is, is her slate cleaned as of her taking shahaadat or does her passed actions carry forward? In the event she slept with my son, she becomes haraam for me even though she slept with him prior to taking the shahaaada?

Q: What is the Shar’i ruling regarding a person who touched his daughter with lust, will his nikaah with his wife (daughter's mother) break?

Q: If any one follows Imam Abu Hanifa and he knows hanafi fiqh very well. If he leave his fiqh with one reason for hurmat-e-musaaharah and follows another Imam, if he prays namaz and other worship according to another fiqh, his namaaz and worship are accepted or not?

Q: If one is unsure if they touched lustfully or if it is waswaasas then does humrat take place? They had no desire for the person that they touched but when they shook the person's hands the thought came to mind that they touching lustfully even though they don't like the person and they felt funny. So they not 100% if they touched it lustfully or if its waswaasas.

Q: For humrat one must touch the other lustfully. Lustfully means a strong sexual desire according to the english dictionary. According to islam does it mean the same thing? So if one does not have a strong sexual desire humrat does not take place even though two people touched each other by shaking hands?

Q: I would like to know for hurtmat-e-musaahara to take place for a male he must have an erection, so how does a female know if she committed hurmat-e-musaahara? Also if a person has no desire for there father in-law at all, they just know the rule of hurmat-e-musaahara and due to waswasaa when shaking his hands thinks "I dont want to touch his hands, now I am touching his hand lustfully" and they have a funny feeling. So they don't really know if they actually touched it lustfully or not But they really don't want to touch his hand. They just shaking it because the father in-law gives out his hand to shake. What is the ruling on this? And how can they control this?

Q: Kya farmaty hain Ulama-e-deen es bary main aik bchi jiski shadi mamo ke bety se 4 saal pehle hui uski aik bchi bhi hai. Aik rishty dar ney masla uthya ke almost 45 years ago es bachi ke walid ney larkay ki walda ki charpai par ghalban burri niyat se gaya aurat ney sakhti se manaa rok diya mard ka hath tak urat ko na laga aurat ney inkar kr k rok diya. Main bachi ki saas se baat ki us ney kaha muje ani bahoo k walid ney mery jism pr hath tak na lagya.