women working

Q: I started wearing my hijab since 2016, no one forced me with it and it was my choice, and it has been a year for wearing it, but the problem is the job of the family that I am working in. It mainly deals with men and our customers are for men. If I plan to study a major for this job, I have to remove my hijab, especially in my country that I live in. It is one of the reasons for a Muslim lady to be forced to remove her hijab, unless if she is married or the guy who would want to be halal for her, ask her to wear hijab. If I wanted to study a major and it is not eligible for a lady to be wearing hijab for this major or job, would Allah punish me for removing the hijab? I have chosen it with love, because I wanted Allah to be near always and for so many reasons. What can I do to ask forgiveness from Allah, if I remove the hijab? Can I fast for one week asking forgiveness? I know Allah is kind and knows what is inside my heart, and Allah knows that even if life forced me to remove the hijab, I would still come back to wearing it, but I would like to know, if I remove my hijab, what can I do so that Allah would forgive me?

Q: I want to ask about khula. I have taken khula about 4 days ago. My husband lives in Australia and he is not with us for the last 16 months. I started working in December and I am in my probation period because of which I am not allowed to leave. If I leave the job then it will be difficult for me to get another job as I am a mother of a baby boy. This is my source of income so that I can pay for his school and other expenses in future. Kindly guide me according to my whole situation.

Q: I just became a widow with 3 kids. I am the only breadwinner and was also before the passing away of my husband as he didn't have a job. My question is can I go out and work? I sell at markets and some markets go up to 10 pm at night.

Q:

1. Under what conditions can a married woman seek employment outside the home?

2. If a woman does work, what rights does her husband have over how she spends her money? What rights does a wife have over how her husband spends his money?

3. Please confirm what are specific things that a man is required to spend on with regards to his wife that fulfills the decrees of Quraan, Sunnah, Shariah etc.

Q: I am an engineer. My salary is an amount that I can just afford to take care of my family. I will not really be saving anything. However, my wife is a dentist, she did not start her practice yet. She just passed her exam a month ago. I permit her to see female patients by opening a surgery. But she wants to be a BCS cadre. This is the highest prestigious govt. job in our country for practicing in a govt. hospital. That means, she is not only interested in the money but also social dignity. If she becomes a dentist in a govt. hospital, she will have to face males nurses and male patients also. If she can avoid male patients, she will still need to talk to other male doctors as well as her colleagues. She will also need to talk about some unnecessary aspects e.g. can she say to her colleague, hello Mr. X, how are you and your family? This is not directly related to her profession but she has to do this. Please note that she wears the purdah but she is very keen to do that job. I am not interested in her doing the job due to the reason I mentioned above, but she forces me again and again. If it is permissible then I will permit her and save my mental peace.

Q: I have been through some difficult times during my current employment at my current company. I am 27 years of age and recently divorced. There has been 1 recent incident that an outsider has been harassing my family with false accusations against myself and my manager. It was found to be untrue where my employer has resolved the issues.

With this being said, my family feels that I should leave the company and start fresh. They would like me to leave even if it means I need to earn much less and step down to a lower role. This will affect my career growth. I would like to stay at my company due to the fact that I am doing well and succeeding. I do want to study further and my parents support that. The only concern I have is that they want me to leave my job and have a perception of my manager that is untrue.

My manager is willing to meet with them to try and keep me at my job and show them that I am growing and doing well and will be giving up shares included.

My uncle was called in and he does not agree with my family giving my ultimatums where I need to choose either them or my work. And if I want to stay where I am working then they will call in the rest of my family and let them know of all mistakes/sins I have done since a young child, and ask the entire family not to accept me as I will be thrown out of the house.

I have repented for my sins and I have changed my way of life completely. The person who has harassed my family has made them worry for their daughter and I have told them that everything is untrue. Even my company has told them this. But still I am being forced to leave my job and find work elsewhere even if it affects my career.

My father says that as my wakeel, he can command me to quit my job.

I am turning to you for guidance as a Muslim sister and daughter to my loving parents. I know they mean well but I am unsure of what to do.

Yes, I agree that I have sinned in the past, and I have turned my life around completely. I do not want to leave my current workplace and I am feeling alot of pressure and unfairness. What do I do? How do I convince my parents when they have asked me to leave so that their hearts can feel better.

I have not done anything I was accused of and now my last option is to turn to you for guidance. It saddens me that I have been given ultimatums and that my family will only move on from this unfortunate event, if I give up my job and work elsewhere.

Please guide me on what to do.

Q: I work in a care home. I just want to know if it is permissible for me to care for men giving them all care needs.

Q: My wife's sister's daughter is a divorcee. She has decided to move out from her parents home to live in her own accommodation in another city on the basis that the existing commute to work is too long.

She claims her father is unable to support her financially due to his age & alleged irregular income. She has no male siblings but does have uncles (mahrams). However culturally it is considered below one's dignity to seek financial support from one's uncles. She claims that her case falls within the remit of dharoorah (necessity)

1. Would the concept of dharoorah apply in this situation? Surely if the situation is, as she describes, then she could do jobs from home and place tawwakul on Allah. The little income will be sufficient.

2. The fact that culturally it is considered below one's dignity to seek financial assistance from one's uncles does not necessarily mean that they collectively or individually would refuse to assist. If it were explained to them that they need to save their niece's imaan, surely they would understand.

3. It is only the essential needs of the divorcee that need to be fulfilled, i.e. clothing, food and shelter which is currently being catered for by her parents as has been the case since her divorce.

She will be going to work without niqab & in an environment of free mixing. Questions:

a. Based on 1 - 2 above, is it correct for this lady to abandon the explicit command of the Qur'an which instructs women not to emerge from the home, i.e. would hers be an exceptional case based on necessity?

b. If it does fall within the category of necessity, is there a need for her to work at a place that is far from her home in a mixed environment without niqab?

c. If the answer to a or b above is "no", is this lady's income halal or not?

Q: I have a few questions to ask regarding divorce. I was married to my cousin for 7 years, he came to Canada last year in 2016 and tried to break my virginity; however, he was unable to break my virginity. After that he never came near me. I got divorced this year in the beginning of August. He is still living in the same house where I live in but in different bedrooms. I would like answers for 3 questions:

1. He is my na-mahram now so should he be living in the same house as me?

2. I received a divorce from the Canadian government, but does my ex husband have to say divorce 3 times to me for me to be legally divorced in Islam?

3. How long is my iddah period and what are the restrictions associated with it ? I work full time so how will my iddah period work?

Q: Is it permissible to use contraceptive medications to delay having children because the couple is studying and working in a tough field (e.g. medicine)?