Q: I have been through some difficult times during my current employment at my current company. I am 27 years of age and recently divorced. There has been 1 recent incident that an outsider has been harassing my family with false accusations against myself and my manager. It was found to be untrue where my employer has resolved the issues.
With this being said, my family feels that I should leave the company and start fresh. They would like me to leave even if it means I need to earn much less and step down to a lower role. This will affect my career growth. I would like to stay at my company due to the fact that I am doing well and succeeding. I do want to study further and my parents support that. The only concern I have is that they want me to leave my job and have a perception of my manager that is untrue.
My manager is willing to meet with them to try and keep me at my job and show them that I am growing and doing well and will be giving up shares included.
My uncle was called in and he does not agree with my family giving my ultimatums where I need to choose either them or my work. And if I want to stay where I am working then they will call in the rest of my family and let them know of all mistakes/sins I have done since a young child, and ask the entire family not to accept me as I will be thrown out of the house.
I have repented for my sins and I have changed my way of life completely. The person who has harassed my family has made them worry for their daughter and I have told them that everything is untrue. Even my company has told them this. But still I am being forced to leave my job and find work elsewhere even if it affects my career.
My father says that as my wakeel, he can command me to quit my job.
I am turning to you for guidance as a Muslim sister and daughter to my loving parents. I know they mean well but I am unsure of what to do.
Yes, I agree that I have sinned in the past, and I have turned my life around completely. I do not want to leave my current workplace and I am feeling alot of pressure and unfairness. What do I do? How do I convince my parents when they have asked me to leave so that their hearts can feel better.
I have not done anything I was accused of and now my last option is to turn to you for guidance. It saddens me that I have been given ultimatums and that my family will only move on from this unfortunate event, if I give up my job and work elsewhere.
Please guide me on what to do.
A: The better thing for a woman is that she should remain at home. Venturing out of the house is a cause of fitnah and corruption. Be content, live with less but don't risk your respect and your deen.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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