Q: A women is blessed with a great husband in all aspects. But the only problem is that he doesn't satisfy her in bed. Most of the time when he approaches her, he uses her body to arouse and satisfy himself (without even involving her at all). As a result, the wife is left disappointed and frustrated and that makes her think of her husband as selfish.
The couple have a few months old baby and the wife wants a few months break before trying for the next baby. Is this a valid excuse for him not to satisfy his wife? Is it not obligatory for the husband to please the wife everytime he pleases himself? The wife has tried to tell him politely a few times and he admits this but this is happening over and over again. Please advise.
A: Marriage is supposed to be with understanding, appreciating and recognising. When these elements are in a marriage then the marriage generally conforms to the sunnat and brings about happiness.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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