Q: I want to ask about my situation. I have 2 kids, one is 3.5 years old and the second is 2.5 years old. My wife's father has retired and my wife wants to work to support her parents, as she is their only child. But my opinion is that my in-laws have a property, 3 apartments other than the one they are residing in. I told my wife that she can work once the kids start school and have a proper routine. Right now my wife is working and my in-laws comes to our home in our absence to look after the kids.
The problem is that my wife gets very tired once she reaches home and is not able to get proper sleep because the kids don't have any routine. So shes not able to take care of me properly.
I need your advise as I'm in big time stress and developed a condition of high bp due to continuous stress.
A: Shariah has commanded that a woman remains at home, serves her husband, takes care of the children and attends to the internal affairs of the home. The husband is shouldered with the responsibility of leaving the home to earn and take care of the needs of his family.
When the roles are reversed, and the wife is burdened with a double responsibility of leaving the home to generate an income as well as take care of her husband and family, then these types of problems are bound to take place.
Therefore, we advise you to take full responsibility of earning and not place this burden upon your wife. If you are able to assist your wife to take care of her parents, then you should do so. You will be greatly rewarded by Allah Ta'ala for this.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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