impurity

Q:

1. If some drops of urine get on the side areas of vagina even after all the precautions, does pouring water over them using Muslim shower during istinja is enough? I usually wash my legs separately, wash with soap and pour water over the area thrice as i don't get satisfied by pouring water while making istinja from Muslim shower. What is the right way? I read on your website somewhere that drops dont need to be washed..they can be wiped with tissues. Is it correct?

2. How many times water should be poured on napaak body part? Some says two, some says three. I use soap then pour water thrice. Is washing with soap necessary?

Q: Please advise with regards to wiping a baby's bottom while the baby is still in diapers. Is it sufficient to use the baby wet wipes, as it removes all visible impurities, or do we need to wash as well?

Q: What is the best way to remove impurity from countertops? I had some wet impurity on a part of the countertop a while ago and it dried and nothing was visible, but the impurity itself was not visible. I spilled some water over a majority of the countertop (I could not cover the entire thing in water, as the water would have spilled over the sides), and then wiped it dry with tissue. The countertop is made of wood with a resin top however some of layers have come of so some wood is visible (the impurity was not on the wood parts, but the water I spilled on the impurity did get to the wood). Is this counter top pure? If not how do I clean it (note that impurity mixed with water has touched most of the countertop and since we make wudu/wash our hands here, no doubt it has transferred to a whole bunch of places). How do I take care of this?

Q: Sometimes when I go to the bathroom I see a white spot/stain. The thing is that the stain is there when I am awake. I mean that if I don't sleep for a whole day and then see it is there. Even If I don't get aroused there is a spot. It doesn't feel wet and neither does my private part fell sticky or slimy like its covered nether does my skin. This case is when I haven't slept for whole day after changing underwear in morning. I don't even feel anything if it there or while coming out if something does come out

1. Am I impure?

2. Do I have to change my underwear and do I have to do ghusul? 

Q: My husband bought chocolate the other day, the one he bought didn't have alcohol but I noticed some of the chocolates did have alcohol. Since the workers of the shop use one spatula to lift all the chocolates and give it to you, would this make my husband's hands and everything he subsequently touched after touching and eating the chocolate napaak?

Q: I read somewhere that ground, wall made of bricks and trees become tahir (paak) if najasat (on them) becomes dry and there is no trace of it present?

Q: Will handling haraam meat make ones's hands napaak?