Customary practices

Q: With regards to fatiha after janazah salaah, is it permissible or not?

If it is not permissible and a person attends such a janazah salaah where they will read fatiha, what should be done?

Q: I want to ask whether we should go to the qabaristan in the morning and recite durood-e-qabaristan for 41 days. Will this help our dead parents?

Q: Can you please explain to me the shar’ee ruling regarding making dua after the janaazah salaah? In certain places, after the janaazah salaah is performed, I see people raise their hands and engage in collective dua for the deceased.

Is this practice established in the Hadith? Some people try to prove the practice of collective dua after the janaazah salaah through the following Hadith. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said,

إذا صليتم على الميت فأخلصوا له الدعاء (سنن أبي داود رقم 3199)

“When you perform janaazah salaah upon any deceased, then sincerely make dua for him.”

Does this Hadith refer to making dua for the deceased after janaazah salaah or does it refer to making dua for the deceased in the janaazah salaah?

Q: My grandmother has recently passed away and my uncle will soon be holding a 40 days khatam with a meal. I strongly do not believe in this however my father is insistent we attend. We have had numerous arguments about this matter and I’m not sure what to do. I may not be a perfect Muslim so he uses this against me.

Q: Please advise on having 3, 10 and 40 days after a mayyit.

Is it also true that the rooh (soul) leaves the house on the 40th day?

Q:

1. Is it permissible to plant flowers and plants on the kabr of the deceased.

2. Also advise if bricks are allowed to be built around the kabr.

Q: My mother passed away 2 weeks ago and someone said that in order for us to gain sabr and comfort, we should take sand from the leg side of her kabr, mix it in water and drink. I feel this is wrong and would like to know is this acceptable in Islam.

Q: Here in our area, when someone dies people do khatams like reading various zikrs like Subhan Allah for 1 lac times etc. so that the deceased might get sawab. Is there any Islamic basis for it? Also does the deceased really get sawab from this if his own children are doing these adhkars?

Q: What is the Shari ruling regarding being a part of the committee system, which is widespread in our area. People of a community contribute some amount every month e.g Rs. 300 per month. Whenever there is a death in the community, this committee comes forward and the collected amount is used to bear the expenses of the kafan, qabar and meals for 3 days for the guests who visit the family of the deceased. Should I become a part of this committee?

Q: Today, 2 years completed since my dadi passed away. We as a family decided to do a khatam of Surah Yaseen for her. Thus, we distributed Yaseen amongst us. Is it ok to do so?