second wife

Q: My question is about second marriage. I have very good relation with my husband and his family. My husband loves me and our two daughters. My in-laws think that I am an ideal wife and ideal daughter in-law , however, my husband says that some men need more than one wife and recently he was seriously thinking about second marriage. I told him that if he wants a second wife, then he has to divorce me first. I have no problem with his getting married for two or three times but I do not want to be his wife in that case. He said he cannot leave me. As I know him, he loves me but he needs more wives as well. What would be my situation in Shariah if I refuse to keep marital relations with him?

Q: Nowadays, majority of husbands have a single wife with the exception of some. In this situation, how can a woman be asked to tolerate her husband's second marriage. Isn't it a responsibility of the husband to inform her prior to the marriage of him entering into another marriage so that she can choose to marry him or not?

Q: If a man wants to marry another woman can he marry without permission from the first wife? If she doesn't give permission and he marries the other woman anyway is it a sin?

Q: I was going through an emotional state and I mentioned when I get married to my second wife, she is divorced thrice. As I divorced my first wife, I keep on getting these waswasah about divorce all the time. Example if I got a certain girl in my mind should I marry her or not, then I get so much off waswasah in my mind that is she the right one for me I don't want to make the same mistake twice it is as if I am scared to get married again and I'm divorcing girls that come to mind so I don't get married to them because I'm scared I'm really suffering with these waswasahs for months now it really weakening me mentally. Will all these divorces go through? If yes, what will I have to do if I I want to make a second nikaah because I'm desirous of getting married. What will be the way out? I feel I am blocked from all sides to progress in anything even I want to do something I feel so hard to do it as if something is pushing me down each time. I want to stand up. Please help me.

Q: My wife is having some serious problems with her vaginal path. We had done a lot of treatments but it doesn't work. I didn't have sex with her since 18 months. I don't want to do zina and I don't want to leave her. Please tell me what should I do? Can Islam allow me to do anal sex with my wife if she agrees to do this?

Q: I am my husbands second wife and married to him since three years. His first wife fights with him now and then as he married me. She threatens him that she will leave his house and take away his children with her. She curses him to die and has scratched his body while fighting . Then after few days tries to be normal as if nothing happened and my husband also forgave her for her bad deeds many times but now the relations have worsened and he wants to divorce her but she doesn't want divorce because she thinks that her husband will become free and will live happily with me. They are not having any any physical relations since a long time. Is my husband at fault for not keeping physical intimacy with her? He is taking care of his family otherwise and doing his duties honestly. Kindly let me know what should he do?