khidmat

Serving parents

Q: I have lived a care free life. Taking everything for granted. I am 27 now. My parents are old now. I want to serve them as the best son in the whole but I have no clue what to do for a living and supporting them financially. Please pray for me and tell me a wazifa that Allah's helps descends on me.

Taking care of one's aged mother

Q:

1. Please advise on the following matter.

A person was looked after by their grandmother from birth to until their grandmother died.At the age of 13 the person learnt that their mother did not want them at birth.The mother in the meantime married a Tamil man who after some time became muslim.The mother had another child and chose to look after the second child and felt uncomfortable around the first child.As time went on still staying with the second child who married a Christian lady and chose to be Christian the mother still stayed with child number 2. Many years after child number 1 married and migrate overseas due to being unemployed. Child number 1 benefited because the mother was working and had her house.As time went by child number 2 managed to transfer the house onto their name and now when the mother is old does not want to look after her.The mother on the other hand refuses to stay anywhere else as she has devoted her whole life to child number

2. What is the obligation of child number 1 as they reside overseas. Inshallah please advise on this important matter.

Serving one's ailing mother

Q: What should a person do in the situation where he needs to bring his ailing mother into his home so that he can look after her, but his wife is unhappy with this? He has explained to his wife that he will look after his mother and tend to her, yet she is still upset and refuses to speak to him. What does Shari’ah instruct in this situation?

Husband preventing his wife from serving her terminally ill parents

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to prevent his wife from visiting her terminally ill parents who live near her home and are in need of her khidmat as there is no one else to make their khidmat? If she goes to make khidmat of her ailing parents against her husband’s instruction, will she be sinful? What does Shari’ah command her to do in such a situation?

Waalidain ki khidmat kown kare, bahu ya bethi?

Q: Sir kia agar aik char bhai ak walida or aik bahan or aik shadi shuda bhai or us ki bivi rehti ho to kia sara kam sir ghar ki beti ko hi karna chahiye agr bhabi ka sirf apna or apnay husban ka kam karna banta h usi family ma rahaty huay us ka koi kam karna nahi banta us family or ghar ka jab kus ka shohar yani hamara bhai earn bhi na karta ho agar us se kam karayen to kia ye us k sath ziadati ho gi kia ye gunah h? Or earn karta ho to bhi najayz h . Kia ghar ki bati ko zayada or bahu ko thora kam dena chahiye? Plz har baat ka ans kijiye ga.jazzakAllah

Pleasing one's father

Q: I would appreciate your insight into a family concern we are having at the moment. My father (a widower) is getting old, he is 78 years of age and currently lives on his own in a house 80 miles from my 2 sisters and 200 miles from me (the only son). Allahamdollilah over the years he has been in good health and is fully autonomous. But a recent event (a minor heart attack) have made us all question what is the right thing to do. Right now as the son, I am with him for at least a month to ensure he gets his full energy back. Beyond that though we have to think about the future and what is the right thing to do. My own current situation is that only within the last 2 years has my job situation become better (since moving to London). I am 33 and live in London (still single) whereas my father lives in Manchester 200 miles away. My sisters (who are settled with families) on numerous occasions have asked him to move to Birmingham (80 miles from where he lives) but he does not want to move there. The question is, I understand that as the son I have a duty of care to my father, but does that have to be at the expense of my own future? My line of work is not common in Manchester (where my father lives) and any jobs that do exist there are not very well paid. I do not have my own property in London so it is not possible for him to move down and also rent prices are high and he would not be willing to live in London anyway. He wants to stay where he is, does that mean as children we have to adapt our lives to accommodate his wishes?