Bid'ah

Q:

1. Is it permissible to do Fatiha Sharif or Khatam Sharif (Recite some verses from the Qur'an like 4 Quls, Surah Fatiha, beginning verses of surah Baqra, etc) in the presence of food then convey the reward to all the deceased Muslims  and then make Dua) not thinking of Fatiha Sharif as compulsory. I was told that there is a hadith in Bukhari where the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) went to Anas (Radiyallhu Anhu's) house and food was presented in front of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) who recited from the Qur'an and then made Dua. Is this true?
2. Will it be permissible for a person to attend Fatiha Sharif or Khatam Sharif gatherings when one is invited, not thinking of Fatiha Sharif as compulsory ?

Q: Considering the fact that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) is not omnipresent, standing up during Salaami isn't allowed. With this in mind, is using the words "Ya Rasulullah" allowed when not in front of Roza Mubaarak? In effect, what I'm asking, is there any problem in listening to Naaths etc with the words "Yaa Rasulullah" in it?

Q: Is it permissible to partake in "salaami" standing up and recting naaths in the praise of Nabi (saw)?

Q: I am reading a book called "Death The Final Journey" by Muhammad Abd Al -Mannan. In this book he states that its Sunnat to give Azaan at the grave site quoting Abu Hurairah (Radiyallahu Anhu) in Muslim and Buhkari Sherif. Further he states that in Durre Muktar its sunnat to give Azaan at the grave with it's blessings the Shaytan will run?

Q: What is the shari'ee status of meelaad and salami as is practised today?

Q: People give mehndhi of the dargah to a girl who is not receiving proposals for marriage. They say she must perform two rakaats Salaah before applying it. Is this shirk?