shirk

Q: I have this problem for long time. It first started with a small doubt and after that it felt like if I do anything, bad or a sin, it's shirk because that means that I am giving more importance to it than Allah. I felt like talking to girls is forbidden so if I talk to girls it's shirk. So if I talk to girls then I am giving more importance to talk to girls than to Allah. So then I stopped talking. For a few days I ignore this thought and talked to girls, then I felt like I am committing shirk. One part of me was like it's not really shirk, if  I make it as shirk allah will forgive and u can do that as a normal sin. After some time its gone, then that thought comes that whatever I do when I watch a movie or whenever I talk to my friend. After a while those thoughts disappear. I ignore those thoughts and live my life as normal Muslims and now those kinds of thoughts strted coming even stronger. Whatever I do, those kind of thoughts are coming that if its shirk, I'll stop doing it. Is doing this confusion and this mindset shirk or not? Because I feel like even if it is not shirk by doing this mean I am ok with this even it's shirk but am not ok .. I now these things are sin ins Islam but these are not shirk ryt even am confused to talk to mom this is not not only for this matter even when i talk with my frndz these kind of thoughts are coming ? So I thought these friend or anyone not more important than Allah am talking to them as normAl as other muslims talks without giving more important but then my mind was like these things are not shirk ok I are not giving important to them but previous which U thought in beginning u did with doubts no so those are shirk even if I talk without giving more important and as normal I make this as shirk so now if I do that it shirk ...so now doing these things which are not actually shirk is shirk or not ?? Is there is anything I can do to make those things as normal sin or normal thing because these thoughts came from waswas problem no please give me some solutions ... nd help me to understand are these things are shirk or not ? Is theres anything I can do to be normal

Q: A friend of mine said "in the name of Jesus" before eating. I told him it's shirk and he asked for any prooof from the Hadith or a verse or chapter from the Qur'an which honestly I don't know. I need help on this because not only him, there are some Muslims around me that make the same mistakes using someone's name other than Allah when doing things.

Q: I have waswasa problem. Recently I gots doubts when watching an animation movie. I felt like I wish I could have life like this in the movie and friends like this. Is thinking like this shirk?

Q: Some members in our relatives give food in the name of others (instead of Allah). They tell that the reward of this charity goes to a particular person soul, also some say that we can give food, clothes etc... in the name of prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). Is it really true? Some give food after a death of a man (within 3 days and 40 days), some read Quran for their souls to be rewarded, is all of these are permissible? Could you please explain me.

Q: I have extreme fear of lizards. By the grace of Allah Ta'ala I am trying to overcome this by ignoring its presence. Is this fear a shirk and will I be forgiven?

Q: I wasn't feeling well, so I had an aamil check me on the phone. My friend told me about him. He is a hafiz and on Deen. So he has a lot reference people go to him. Alhumdulillah with the hukm of Allah people get cured. So he lives overseas. So if I call him on the cell and speak to him, he tell's you what is happening. Mow my yakin is on Allah only. So i was having bad foot pain and cramps so I called him and he told me put out your hand and close your hands and then he checks from there. He tells you what you have like a blood circulation problem and what medicine you have to take. Now he came to my country as well and he checked me. I had jinns, so he removed it by placing them in bottle. Now when I call him on the phone, he tells me you have to take this medicine and so on. I am worried is it shirk. I know only Allah knows everything only Allah is the curer. We used the means of the world but only Allah can give shifa. So by asking him from my country and he tells you put you hand out and then he ask if it heavy and he ask if you have pain here and there and then he tells you what illness you have, is listening to him shirk? I am worried about my Imaan. I want to die on Imaan.

Q: You know 90% people including muslims watch movies today which is very sad but my question is that when muslims watch movies where zina is shown other sins are shown and kufr and shirk is shown, then people come out of the cinema and say "Wow! That was and awesome movie". Do these muslims become kafir by saying that?

Q: If someone does or says something kufr or shirk due to lack of knowledge or ignorance or unintentionally, can he/she be excused or will it be recognized as kufr?