Q: I am a fairly wealthy person and don't give much to my siblings' children because they are in my will. However I give lots of charity/sadaqah to other organizations. Is my sadaqah or charity valid if my sibling divorced his wife and left her and his kids, and they are not well off and struggle every other day?
Q: Maine or meri wife ne apni marzi se nikkah kia hai or ab us k ghr walay nikkah ko nai maan rhy or khty hain hum ne talaq laini hai jab k larki talaq nai laina chahti to ab mjy kya krna chaheay
Q: Kya maan oar baap pe kharch karna bhi sadqa main aata ha? Oar kya sister jis ko divorce ho chuki ho lakin wo job Karti ho, kya us per ya us k bachoon per kharch sadqa main shumar ho ga? Masjid main jo pesay ya carpet ya koi oar cheese jesay actually wagera lagwa dena kis zumray main aaata ha.
Q: Is it allowed for family members to go against rules that parents have made for their kids? For example, when a child has an upset tummy, parents ask family not to give the child things to eat without asking the parents first?
Q: My Bangladeshi husband has lost both his parents long ago. Shukar to the Almighty Allah that we are able to help his siblings often financially. However, it has come to a stage where it seems that his siblings are taking it for granted and they are not trying to help themselves. My husband has 4 sisters and 1 brother. The brother owns lots of land in Bangladesh. Over the past 12 years my husband has been trying to give his sisters land that was left behind by his parents, but each time he would go to Bangladesh, his brother and sisters would never come to an agreement as no will was left behind. My husband finally decided to go this year and give them more than the required land according to the sharia. He paid for all the transfer fees and made sure all the paperwork is fine. They got the most valuable lands now in their names. Out of the 4 sisters, one sister is financially doing well as her husband works hard in Kuwait. The remaining 3 sisters and the brother have always tried taking advantage of us by lying to us on situations we later found out were not true. We have helped send my brother in law’s oldest son twice to overseas to help him get a job and become more responsible. Last year we just finish paying his second sons university tuition to help him become independent but it’s been over 9 months and he is doing nothing to help himself. Both my brother-in-law’s sons are over 25 years old. The oldest one is now financially doing well in Singapore. My youngest sister-in-law has a husband who does not take care of his wife and kids and she is constantly asking us for money. We have sent lump sums over the years and have told her on many occasions to use the money wisely so they can improve their situation. But each time she just spends it all and within a month or two later will ask again. So she has gotten so used to getting money from us that she is now demanding it or will curse us. Her husband feels no responsibility for his family and does not provide for them. Their daughter is now getting married and we have sent money for the wedding, but they are planning to have a big wedding to show off and they are not happy with what we sent. They say they will curse us and keep questioning my husband’s salary as they believe that it should go to them. I am a housewife and homeschool my 2 kids. My oldest sister in law is a widow and she has three sons in overseas working but she also keeps wanting more money from us. My second oldest sister in law has one son overseas and another in his thirties doing nothing at home. But since her husband is crippled we do gladly send her a lot of money too, but her sons are not very responsible. We have tried over the years to help my husband’s siblings become more independent so they can do well financially, but they are not trying to do their part. We whole heartedly help them when they are sick or require money for food, sending their kids overseas to get jobs, all other necessary matters or for their children’s’ education. But they are expecting us to pay for their children’s’ elaborate weddings and jewelry etc. Sometimes I feel that it would be better for us to give the same money to help the many children victims of war, such as those who are undernourished and have no food. Instead we are giving lots of money to my husband’s siblings who are too proud and arrogant to work hard, are demanding and ungrateful. My husband’s siblings call him only for money, they never even cared when my son was hospitalized. My husband also has high blood pressure and we have a son diagnosed with cystic fibrosis. Given the situation, is it my husband’s duty to see to his siblings who have husbands or sons over 25 years old for extravagant events such as elaborate weddings or jewelry etc?
Q: I understand that it is haraam for men to act like females and wear female clothing. Can mufti explain to me as to what the punishment of those who interact with these people or allow them to participate in their conversations will be?
Q: Mera ek question ha may darii rakhna chahta hn par mere ghar wale Nahi rakhne dete agr rakho or unki bt na Mano to wo kahte hain k hamara dil dhukhao ge tumhari namazen nahu qabul hongi tanz karte hain bataen may kya karun? Agr rakhta hn unke against ja k na to ye gunnah ha na he maa baap ki koi nafarmani ham bataen? Kya karun? Is tarhan to bohat se chezen hain wo bhi Islamic rules follow ne karte phir?
Q: Should a person cut relations and move away from parents and other close relations if he or she is being made to feel isolated because of failure to adhere to the societal norm of free mixing? The individual in question feels that he is being an inconvenience at gatherings. Family feel compelled to make separate seating arrangements, which due to their habit of free mixing they can't keep to. In addition even on the rare occasions when complete segregation is adhered to the social gathering contains useless talk, which leads to gheebat. If the individual in question addresses this issue in the only way that he knows, then he is regarded as either being a spoil sport, breaking hearts or even mentally unwell. His family regard themselves as deendar but their Deeni talks ironically take place whilst brother in laws and sister in laws are sitting in the same gathering. This brother is now beginning to feel depressed and isolated and the only way out seems to be move away from everybody. Is this a reasonable course of action to take in this particular situation?
Q: Who should carry out the ghusal of the deceased? At times, people come in as spectators and the family members are not happy with this. Can they object and stop such people?