Customary practices

Q: I have been in a relationship with a boy for the past year and it resulted in us both committing a disgraceful act and has resulted in a child. We have repented and asked for taubah and want the baby to be legitimate in the eyes of Allah by performing nikaah. The problem is with my mother, she does not agree to this and says I am too young and also she is not religiously inclined when it comes to marriage in Islam. She says that I am 17 and cannot do this without her consent. I was wondering if there are any ways to make nikaah secretly until we can do it openly. My first priortity is my child and I want to do this properly and the boy and his family agree to this.

Q: Is it a requirement in Islam that the man and woman sit in the same room during nikaah?

Q: Can a Muslim child be a flower girl? It's a Muslim couple getting married.

Q: A couple has done nikah and Rukhsati will be a few months later. The parents want to have a function in a hall and feed the guests to let their daughter go with her husband. After alot of insisting they are not doing that and now they are letting the husband take the daughter directly from the house without any function. The girl's side would like to feed their guests. The groom is totally against this. Can the parents feed their guests with another intention and not for the rukhsati?

Q: I am now marrried for 13 years. Unfortunetly during my wedding, my father in law had gotten ill. He passed away the day before my wedding. We had cancelled everything and just made the nikaah and fed the guests. We have always wanted to have a good wedding but that had not happened. Our nikaah was mixed with very big loss and most of the elders could not attend. All these years I have yearned for a proper opportunity to be a bride. If we would like to have like a reception or gathering is that Islamically allowed?

Q: What is the rulling regarding a secret nikaah if both boy and girl are of a mature age and the parents refuse.

Q: We follow a practice in the case of a marriage proposal that first the boys mother comes to see the girl, then both parties make itikhara, if positive, then we go for investigation, meet the boy personally and thereafter when everything appears to be positive, the girl and the boy are shown to each other face to face. My question is that when the girl is shown to the boy after all other steps are done, can she show her hair or uncover her head in front of the boy only with whom she is being proposed to marry?

Q: I am an unmarried girl of age 32. I lost my father 9 years back. I dont have a brother. My mother is not getting any suitable alliance for me. I changed my mind and started searching for a divorcee and widowed person with child also. But then also I didnt get. Hence i started thinking for a married person also. Each and every day I am facing problema and coming close to gunah. No one is understanding me. Every time they are telling me to have patience.

I got a person who is married and has a 7-8 years old daughter also and he wants to marry again. He stays about 900 km away from me and says that he will only tell their family members after gettimg married to me. However he says that he will surely come with 8 to 10 people from his society to marry me. He says that he was searching for another girl for the last 3-4 years as he has some issues with his wife. For that he has said to his in-laws also that he has problems and they should ask their daughter about it. But nor his wife or his in laws are listening or giving any attention. My mother does not agree. All of the family members are saying that I will be cursed by his first wife and I will be hurting his first wife by marrying him. Pls suggest what to do.

Its an extreme condition for me.

1. Is it ok to marry that man?

2. What does the shariat say about 2nd marriage of a man, does he destroy his first marriage by 2nd marriage?

3. What does the shariat say for the anger and curses of the 1st wife?

4. If the man is not at all ready to divorce the first wife at any cost and intends to give equal rights then is it right to say that the 2nd wife is destroying the first wife's house?

Q: I am proposed to my long relation cousin. Both of our parents agreed to our marriage. Actually it is their arrangement. Also with their permission we are speaking via phone. But due to my education my parents don’t want me to do nikah right now. My question is, can I discuss only with my future wife (in shaa Allah) about mahram and give that mahram amount secretly and make this relationship to be halal? Or else am I allowed to keep one or two witnesses only and make this relationship halal? I don’t want the blame on my parents because i don’t feel like its their mistake.

Q: Is it mandatory to seek prior permission from the first wife for second marriage in Islam.