Various masaail of Nikaah

Q: I am an Indonesian, married to a Sudanese (living in Madinah, KSA). We married in my parents' house (un listed in government), while all his family members and his mother knew that we were getting marriedm except his father. His father actually knew but he said himself that officially he din't know because he doesn't accept our marriage, because my husband is still studying. The problem now, my parents want us to make it in government soon and everything is just being controlled. While I really wish for his father to bless us for our marriage, what do I have to do?

Q: I read somewhere that when a couple date before marriage, the sins of dating could sabotage the happiness in the marriage and when things are done the halaal way then there’s less likelihood of problems arising. But, if anything should go wrong even when done the halaal way, then at least they would know that it was a test from Allah and that the sins of dating did not contribute to it since they would not have done so. Therefore, if they did everything in the halaal way, they wouldn’t have any regrets thinking they should have done things differently.

Q: I made zina with a girl (both of us are unmarried) one hour before our Nikah. We didnt get time to take a bath and we completed our nikah like that only. Is my nikah valid or invalid? (Or) Should I have to do the nikah again with her? 

Q: If a person once used to commit some sexual sins but then he/she repented and now he/she does not fear to commit those sins again, will marriage be still obligatory for him/her? If he/she does not get married ever, will he/she be sinning?

Q: Is it permissible for me to accept the rishta of the one who strictly do not accept sharee parda where as I do sharee parda from years? Would I be sinful and considered as disobedient to my parents if I deny such a rishta?

Q: If a daughter calls her father ‘brother’ or a wife calls her husband ‘brother’ jokingly or any way, is it sinful?

Q: I am a 25 year old sunni girl. My father is hafz of Quran. I was pressurized to marry with my cousin brother while my family and my cousin brother family were knowing I wanted to marry with a good Muslim boy who is doctor, dr ahmad, and he was a dawa worker too. I broke my engagement for doctor ahmad. I refused many proposal for nikah. I resist l cried and was taking medicine for sleep n headache for 3 yrs. But my father said Let her cry, she will have to accept my decision at any cost.

Then my parents stop talking with me and changed their behaviour to pressurize on me and my father said to doctor ahmad Because you are not of my location. I wanted to keep my daughter near me. This was his basis of rejection to dr ahmad. Dr.ahmad replied to him. It can't be a basis of rejection as per sharia for proposal to daughter marriage.

As per kufu he was from a good family background ,compatible with me. Knowing all my facts and choice.my cousin brother sent proposal to my father for nikah with me. I warned my cousin brother don't marry with me otherwise you may get divorce in future.but he said. Because I love you ayesha and your father also like me So this nikah will be valid. Later after nikah I will treat very well with you.so you will start loving with me.

Because every one was against me and was blaming not to listening my fathers choice. So I had to accept nikah with my cousin brother. After one year of nikah. I text to doctor ahmad.I said there is nothing like wife and husband relationship between me and my husband. Dr ahmad told me. I will still accept you. I said to ahmad my husband don't behave badly with me.but still I couldn't stop loving you. Then my husband told to dr ahmad I admit my fault.she still cry for you ahmad.if you will ask me Now i am ready to give divorce. Then dr.ahmad gave another chance to my husband and make an agreement He said to my husband During 1.5 yr of your married life You couldn't won your wife heart. Ahmad said I am giving 1.5 more year to spend you couple together. If she would still like to marry with ahmad. You will have to give her divorce. But if love would develop as a husband wife between you couple.then DrAhmad wll go away from you people

In this agreement everyone were agreed.

My 2 questions in this regard are these of the followings QUESTIONS:

(1)= In such a marriage where girl is accepting nikah due to pressure and her family members were making her fear of father might get ill or he may die(incase if she would say NO during nikah consent.) Parents,boy with whom girl is going to marry .and all family members of boy were aware as this was a forceful nikah. In such nikah if later girl revolt and want to marry with her previous choice. So she would become sinner?

(2) i fear always of one thing Because ultimately I agreed for nikah consent yes (Even that time if I would get freedom I would definitely choose dr ahmad) So I might become questionable in front of Allah. As I had a chance to say NO But I said yes so it was my fault( at that time if I would say no .I could loose my family ,dad) Now my family accepting their fault up to some extent.so now they won't do much pressure on me. So please help me Can I go with dr ahmad? My father said Divorce is bad things.so its my advice don't do it. But Dr ahmad replied Divorce is really bad but not this kind of nikah. He further added Nikah is worst thing among all permissible acts. But forcing n pressurizing for such nikah on adult girl is even not a permissible act. As you were under pressure of loosing your dad Your husband was also aware of all facts but he snatched your rights ayesha. So as per hadith doing such nikah is As it was not happened. You are free to continue your nikah Or You may come to me. You won't be sinner in sha Allah.

Q: I got a marriage proposal which I wasn’t sure about so my uncle decided to have hisab done. I didn’t know it was haram then but it came back saying the marriage won’t be good for me and I will ultimately marry someone from another country. I have said yes to the proposal but wondering now if I should believe and listen to what the hisab said? Is hisab real? I am doing istikhara but haven’t had a answer yet.

Q: I am in love with one of my colleagues and I want to marry her but what makes me reluctant is that she had a boyfriend and had sex with him in this hope that he will later marry her which unfortunately didn't happen. Now she is hopeless about her future and I think I can help her but I am reluctant as I said. I want to ask if I marry her with intention of making her life better, will this act please Allah and will He reward me greatly?

Q: A husband wife went to a park and there was dung on the floor. The husband tells the wife to pick it up (probably the aim is to see her obedience to him) and she refuses, will it be classified as a sin?