Making wudhu after having relations with one's wife
Q: After relations with ones wife, if one intends to sleep without ghusl, the hadith mentions making wudhu. Is this classified as a sunnat?
Masaail relating to intimacy
Having relations with one's wife before rukhsati
Q: Can we have sex after nikaah but before rukhsati?
Husband stimulating wife
Q: If my husband stimulates my breast while I keep my legs closed and due to the added pressure of my legs being closed I reach climax, is this allowed? Because it’s very difficult for me to finish with my legs opened, so even though I ensure he finishes with normal vaginal penetration, I need him to stimulate me some other way in order for me to finish and this requires my legs to exert pressure on my private while he massages my breast or something of that sort. I’m not sure if the fact that he is stimulating me makes it okay or whether the fact that I am exerting pressure with my legs at the same time turns it into masturbation. Please advise.
Satisfying one's wife during intimacy
Q:
1. Is it recommended or even mandatory that the woman orgasms during a sexual relationship with her husband.
2. If the husband has reached orgasm, is it mandatory or recommended to wait until the woman has her orgasm and then stop the sexual relationship.
3. For me, once I reach my orgasm (the sperm is out) I cannot continue the sexual activity, but my wife tells me that it is her right to have an orgasm also. The result is that all these words and attitudes have broken the desire for my wife. I do not want to touch my wife because I have a disgust in me. I have the impression that the roles are reversed, although I have always been indulgent in sex with my wife.
All the more her sexual appetite is much greater than mine, please advise us.
Doubting whether one had intercourse during haidh
Q: I'm really worried if I committed a sin. Yesterday when I was doing foreplay with my wife, I tried fingering and I saw a little pinkish color on my finger. My wife immediately went to the washroom and checked whether her periods started or not. She confirmed that her periods haven't started so I had sex with her the same night. But today her periods started. I'm worried whether that pinkish color was period blood. Had I committed a sin. Please tell me what I have to do.
Intimacy after nikaah before rukhsati
Q: From the start of my early life I had never been focused on any aim and still now I am regretting it why I am not clear about my aim. I am feeling like a burden on this earth. I never wanted to be engaged before marriage. After my BS honors I got engaged, to whom I got engaged he is totally of a different chemistry life style. He always wanted to be bold in our relationship whereas I believed in intimacy after marriage.
A lot of misunderstandings and quarrels occurred between us. Just before nikah, I was totally blamed for not being expressive in showing my feelings or whatever. He always wanted a bold relationship, bold talks whereas I denied it just because I knew its not allowed in Islam. To save this relationship and respect of my parents I totally vanished my personality, my own resemblance. I have done my mphill but still I feel nothing to myself.
Why every time girls have to shut their mind soul and feelings even after nikah (rukhsti is in coming Nov) he wants to have full intimacy. I know it is allowed after nikah when he come to visit me but I want to have all this after rukhsati.
Intimacy with one's spouse
Q: I am married for 6 years and want to have clarity on some topics which will sound disgusting but if I have clear and right information about the same I will carry on forward.
1. In Islam, is it allowed to see, rub, caress, kiss one's wifes anus after cleaning that area and making sure nothing unhygienic is there.
2. Since anal sex is haraam, can I massage/rub with my finger on my wifes anus. I wont be doing any penetration with hand/penis.
3. Can I have sex with my wife in the bathroom and kitchen or any other place in my home.
Phone sex
Q: I got married in April and my rukhsati will be in October. During this time period canI talk to my wife on the phone or can we do phone sex?
Can we both masturbate while having phone sex?
Wife masturbating due to husband working in another country
Q: I am married and my husband is abroad since 3 months. I too will accompany him but it will take 3 more months because of some issues. Am I allowed to mastubrate or do I need to control my desires by the time I get there?
Giving sadaqah due to getting intimate during haidh
Q: If one has sexual intercourse during haidh, and the blood is red then 4.364g in gold has to be given. To who must this penalty be paid and under what (sadaqah)?