Iddat

Woman living alone after iddat

Q: Is it permissible for a female after her iddah to remain in the town she was married in? 

She has a teaching post as well as housing. Housing will be in a shared property with a Muslim family if safety is of concern. 

She does have parents but due to the abusive environment she would feel more safe remaining where she is currently sitting in her iddah. Her father is encouraging her to return to live with her parents. 

To my knowledge, a female is allowed to marry/re marry without the consent of her wakeel. Does this enable her to make all other decisions within the boundaries of Shariah by herself or does she now, after iddah, require the permission of her father? 

Old lady going for umrah during iddat

Q: My grandmother has an umrah trip planned for end of March. But her husband passed away a few days ago (Feb 11). I am aware that iddat is for 4 months ten days but my grandma is 75 years old and I wanted to know if she is able to go to umrah and complete the remainder of her iddat when she gets back or is it not permissible for her to go? I was not aware if age makes a difference. 

Three talaaqs while one's wife is in the state of haidh

Q: I would like to know the validity of the talaq given to me by my husband. He said talaq three times in one go out of anger. There were a few people present to hear the talaq and straight after, he called my father and said ‘I've given your daughter talaq come and take her’.

Currently we are living separately and we have three children together.

Also, when and how long does my iddah start. At the time of the talaq I was on my menses.

Woman in iddat leaving the home due to fear of being alone

Q: A girl is currently sitting iddat in her father and mother in law's house.

Her ex husband is a total lost case. The ex husband's parents have decided to let her (their daughter in law) sit her iddat in their own house because she has no where else to go. The ex husband is not staying in the same house as his ex wife.

Also the girl's family, all of them are not on Deen. They are mostly involved in gangsterism and drugs. She has absolutely no where else to go. The only safe place for her to live and spend her iddat is at the home of her parents in law.

The question is, since the girl is spending her iddat at the home of her parents in law, so when they (the parent in laws) both need to go out together for some of their necessities, can she accompany them? They say that they cannot leave her alone at home, as the area is a bit dangerous and also she is scared to stay alone.

So are they allowed to take her with them when they both need to go out?