Iddat

Q: I am sitting in iddat at my aunt's house and the house is full and I don't want to be in the way. Can I change my place of iddat?

Q: My question is I took talaaq (divorce) on 25th October 2013. I was at my mother's home from the last 6 months and I was having no connection with my husband. I worked as a Software Developer. To leave my office I have to give one months notice. Without giving notice and replacement of my position to someone else, I won't be able to leave this office. What does Shariah say about iddat after talaaq? And what should I do as I have problem of office. Kindly Help me as soon as possible.

Q: I have a question regarding divorce and iddat. I was living in Quetta with my husband. Me and my husband came to Islamabad to get a divorce. I was divorced on the second September 2013. I am now living here at my parents home in Islamabad. Currently this is my second month of iddat, and there is no hope of reconciliation. One of my brothers lives in Lahore. He lives with my grandfather (dada abbu). He is getting married tomorrow. I wanted to ask if I can go to Lahore to attend my brother's wedding. Afterall he is my mahram and I will be living in my dada abbu's house. Am I allowed to go to my brother's wedding in Lahore during my iddat?

Q: My dad passed away on the 19th auguast 2013. We would like to know when my mothers iddat will finish?

Q: If a woman is given a talaq, is it permissable for her to agree with husband that she spends her iddah at her parents' home instead of the husband's home, because of the enmity that exists between them (her and the husband)?

Q: My husband uttered words of kufr (he said that he is a christian) and hence my nikkah broke and I do not wish to reconcile with him. I am already at my parents home for 3 months. Do I have to sit for iddat?

Q: Does iddat (waiting period) count for someone who is old? 

My grandmother is 80 years old and recently her husband passed away. So since she is old does the rule of iddat apply to her and if yes, what is her iddat?

Q: I have been divorced for 7 years. The talaq was issued by my then husband in writing but it was at my request. I was married for 10 years and we have a daughter. In the time of my marriage he never supported me financially nor spent time with us as he was married and I accepted that he give his first wife more time. After few years into our marriage, his first wife asked for talaq. He was with me for 6 months when I discovered some indiscretions and he said he was involved with another woman. I urged him to get married and that I would accept it 100% but he needed to be fair from the start so that she could understand as she reverted before they married. He continued to not spend time with us at all and never provided financially. His new wife according to him was insisting that he had to choose as she cannot accept him remaining married to me. He chose her but only gave me the Talaq upon my request. I have it in writing.  Thereafter we had meetings with both sets of parents who were made aware that I was observing my iddah period. They could not influence the decision and respected and accepted it. I informed my then husband the date after every menstrual cycle until my third clean period. after which I ended my iddah period.

I want to remarry Insha Allah and want assurance that the correct procedure was followed.

Q: Please advise on how we can be assisted with the following?

My parents divorced in a court of law approx 23 years ago due to my father’s drug addiction and have never been in contact since then. I recently asked my mum if she sat for iddat and if my father gave her Talaaq. The reply was negative as he refused to give talaaq at the time due to our ignorance on matters of deen my mum did not pursue this further as she was advised by some Moulana that they are divorced.

I have over the years been in sporadic contact with my Father and he has/had a history of being in and out of Government Mental Facilities. It reached a stage where over the last few years he has lived on the street. I tried taking him into my place however he was unable to live with us due to his constant need to use drugs and the fact that I rent in a complex with strict body corp rules which made his living with us quite difficult. My attempts to have him institutionalized where also unsuccessful due to his unwillingness and the long waiting period at Government institutes. He thus remained on the street. We have in the last three weeks received news that he was quite ill and passed away. My attempts to confirm this with the State Mortuary proved futile.

The dilemma we now face is that my mum needs to know what her position would have been over the course of time.

Can the Nikah now be annulled or does she have to sit in iddat due to there having never been Talaq issued and the fact that now we do not know if my father indeed did pass away or not?

Your assistance in clarifying this matter will be of great help to ease the uncertainty that my mum faces?

Q: Why is the waiting period not obligatory after committing fornication?