Iddat

Where should a woman spend her iddat?

Q: If a woman's husband has pasted away, is her father-in-law her mahram? The wife stays with her in-laws mother/father in-law, brother in-law/wife. Can she make her iddat in her current home, or should she stay with her mother and do her iddat. (The distance between her home and her mothers is 300km) or should her mother stay with her at her in-laws?

Iddat of a woman whose husband passed away after childbirth

Q: What will be the "iddat" of a woman if her husband passes away and she has a 6 day old baby? It is in my knowledge that if the woman is pregnant then till delivery she is in iddat and in normal cases it would be 4 months and 10 days. But my question is this that just 6 days before the death of the husband she delivered. So is there no iddah and she will be "paak or tahira" in 40 days. Or she will complete 4 months?

Going to work in iddat

Q: May Allah reward you for the good work you provide for our ummah. My question is if a wifes husband passes away does she have to complete her iddat on the excuse of saving her job? The husband has left an amount of R130 000 in the bank account. Wife has about R100 000 in her account. Wifes father Alhamdulilah is quite wealthy and he only has two daughters. All in the family are working and earning. Its a government job. Sshe has the fear that if she stays on for her husbands iddat there "might" be a risk of losing her job. We do know that south africa is a freedom of religion country. We do know that if she does not go to work, there will be enough to take care of her needs in the four months of iddat. If she stays in after looking at all this is she still allowed to leave her iddat for her job?

Iddat period of talaaq

Q: I am 47 years old and married for 19 years. This is my third marriage (I am the only wife). I was married twice in my twenty's and got fasagh for both (valid reasons). The problem is at that stage of my life I had no guidance from anyone. I have a father and a brother but they never explained to me right and wrong, the only Islamic thing my father spoke to me about was to wear a scarf and I thought that makes you a Muslim. My mother is a revert and my father and brother also never guided her. I never made ibadah, never knew much about the deen as my father also didn't live and practise deen. Now I am coming back to my actual dilemma. Alhamdulillah I have transformed tremendously since I married my current husband of 19 years and he has been my guide my anchor. I am really living and fulfilling my Deen. There was a topic the other day about iddah and the explanation about the punishment of not observing idaah properly. Therefore I need advise. For both marriages I never observed iddah because of ignorance, no one explained it and maybe they did and I didn't understand. I now want to make things right but I need guidance. Please give me advise on this matter.