Revoking the Talaaq

Q: I am writing to you with a lot of hope that I will be guided in the most Islamic way Insha Allah. My husband and I were married for the past 11 years. Last month on 16 November 2013 my husband gave me a talaaq the on phone, but he did not identify any witness or even mention them. Before talaaq me and my husband were not in contact at all. We had a fight and in anger I told him not to show me his face till
he does not start speaking the truth (as in every matter my husband has a bad habit of lying). He left my parents house in anger and for the next 6 months didn't try to contact me. He just wrote a letter to my parents that he is thinking of divorce. My parents didn't respond thinking he will come to Dubai that is where me and my parents are staying but he didn't come and decided to give me talaaq through the phone as he stays in Saudi. After giving talaq last month we started chatting and we cleared most of our misunderstandings and realised both our mistakes, now we want to make rujoo as only one talaq is over but now my in laws are not allowing him and pressurising him to continue with divorce. In fact my father in law even threatened to leave the house if my husband comes to make rujoo'. When we asked for reasons they are saying things like "she took the wedding album without our permission to Saudi 5 years back" and "she had back answered us four years back". The actual reason is simple ego as my mother in law is a real sister of my mother and from childhood there has been problems between both sisters. My husband and I have been the victim of these sister wars for so many years now. Finally my father in-law is saying that since my father is daughter's father he should come and apologise and then they will accept me. This is only pride but Islamically is there anything like the husband's parents deserve more respect then the girl's parents? I have already called my mother in law in my iddah and apologised for the mistakes according to them I have done and promised not to repeat any mistakes again Insha Allah. The fact is I used to stay with my husband in saudi and my inlaws in india and my parents in dubai. There is no reason for them to object as far as my husband and I are happily staying in saudi. We asked Moulana and they have said "Islamically rujoo is the decision between husband and wife" but we need the blessing and love of our elders. Please guide us what to do?

Q: I wanted to know where I stand in my situation. Basically, I have given my wife first divorce in January. After that, we had ruju' done and lived fine and happy for 6 months. But again, major issues were brought up and she went back to her mothers home. It has been three months with no contact and in that time, I signed a divorce paper witnessed by a solicitor which clearly states I divorce her. This was not given to her, but am I right to assume, because my intentions are involved, it is classed as the 2nd divorce?

Now, someone is trying to mend the relationship, but it has been over 2 month since this 2nd divorce. I am confused because some one has said, that between the 2nd and 3rd, even if you don't give a divorce, if the period of ruju' is over, it automatically nullifies the marriage. is this true? Or are we still in nikaah?

Q: I follow the hanafi madhab. I divorced my wife one time and then I went back to her by just uttering the words I take you back as my wife then I divorced her a second time after a few days and then I went back to her by just uttering words I take you back and accept you as my wife. Recently a friend of mine told me that I can't do that. After the second time I must have an imam and witnesses and marry her again the way I first married her. I am worried now. I have already divorced her for the third time now but I am concerned that when I became intimate with her after the second divorce did I fall in sin?

Q: If a woman is given one divorce, is it permissible for her to continue living in the same house as her husband? Also, if they realize that the divorce was given in haste and they want to reconcile, do they have to make nikaah again?

Q: If a man served one notice divorce in a month and again served second notice divorce in the second month and after that both want to start their matrimonial again life before 3 months expiring from serving the first notice. Should they perform a new nikaah or not?

Q: A few days ago during a fight between my husband and myself, my husband said in extreme temper or rage “OK bring your relative I will finish this relation”. I said “no one can do this only we can. Give me divorce. He only said “I give you”, but did not use the word talaaq or divorce. After this we apologized to each other. I said to my husband you have given me 1 divorce. He said it does not count in divorce because he showed me a hadith in ighlaaq or extreme temper divorce will not count.

Q: My husband gave me one talaaq. Before I could complete my iddat he had sexual intercourse with me against my will. Is our marriage still reconciled even though it happened against my will?

Q: I divorced my wife for the second time. What should I do?

Q: I have been given 2 talaqs on the 23 Nov 2012 but now my husband and I would like to reconcile but I want to know how soon should we reconcile. Is there an expiry period after a woman has been given 2 talaqs? 

Q: If a husband gave one divorce to a wife, and wants her to come back. Dose she have a right to refuse?