Advice

Q: I tremendously respect the ulama of Deoband and especially Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi because of the Khidmat of the Deen they have done throughout their whole life. I have been really shocked when I read that one "scholar" of the past, Ahmed Reza Khan, has claimed that Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi was a disbeliever. Furthermore I have read that Ahmed Reza Khan has some links with the qaadyani. I do not want to pour oil on the flames but I would appreciate lengthy details about Ahmed Reza Khan and what opinion we should hold about him, although one should not become extreme and violent in such matters.

Q: I have a burning question and your enlightenment thereon will be highly appreciated. I have a friend who has a young daughter of 22. The daughter has been dating the son of a couple who will be leaving for umrah Insha Allah soon. This couple will be leaving their house and son in the care of the boy’s grandmother. My question is: Does the Umrah become null if these youngsters continue seeing each other in the company of the grandmother or go on an outing like they normally do when the boy’s parents are around during the period the boy’s parents are on Umrah?

Q: My question is with regards to the high divorce rate. We see one of the biggest causes being lack of excitement or the inability to satisfy one's partner in bed. So to save the marriage can couples use sex toys during intercourse or practise bondage or learn different sex positions through books (containing sexual content) for education purposes?

Q: My engagement has been with my cousin. He used to love me but due to some misunderstanding he doesn't talk or want to be in this relation but our family doesn't want to break up. Please help me what can I do to melt his heart?

Q: My husband and I have been having endless problems for the past year now. I have left our home a few times due to his behaviour towards me . I am back at our home for 3 months now and for the last two months we have been having problems. He has hit me and also been chatting to other girls on social networks. He has a temper and his mood just switches and therefore he mistreats me. He also doesn't want me to visit my parents or socialize with my family. It has gone so bad now that I cannot talk to my husband or ask him for anything or rely on him for anything. I feel like I am living with a stranger. What can I do? I don't want to be with him anymore because of the way he is treating me but he does not want to give me talaaq. Please advise.

Q: I pray 5 times a day. I Believe in Allah and everything he has provided me is the best. I try my best to follow the guidance given by the prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). But the problem is that people, they degrade me, others try to outsmart me in the office, they sometimes bully me. Maybe that is why I haven’t achieved much in my profession. Maybe I’m not that smart but still, but lately it is been distracting me a lot from everything. I started to question my faith. Did I do something that Allah is punishing me? I’m so confused that I don’t know what to do. I tell myself everyday that this will end too. But now I’m not strong enough and maybe I don’t have what it takes to be like other people. I know that you received these kinds of mails every other day. I’m worried about, that how will it change me or take me far away from my Islam. Or maybe I have to spend my whole life like this. I know life is a test and Allah Ta'ala tests those who he wants to bring close to him. But I can’t take handle it anymore. Every second cannot be a test or I have so many sins that I have to live like this.

Q: I'm trying to reform and i'm sinning to the point where I get out of the fold of Islam due to the whispers of Shaitaan and his mind warping ability. When I redo the Shahada, I start seeing things within my mind and start focusing on them due my psychosis and Shaitaan. Does my Shahada still become come valid. It's very difficult to have the meaning in my mind properly while I read it. What should I do?

Q: Mufti Saheb I am in financial constrains and my marital life is in shambles. Can you show me some wazifa whereby all my problems can get solved and I may gain success and happiness?

Q: I am 28 years old. I am divorced. My blood relative is 25 years old. We are in love and want to get married. My parents agree and have no issue but his parents do not get agree as they say that the girl is divorced and elder otherwise they have no other issue. We really want to get married and unable to accept anyone else in this relationship. We both are mature and independent. Please tell me that what should we do. We are completely aware of the responsibilities of this marriage. Please help me in this matter.

Q: I have been married to a girl from Pakistan for five weeks. I was very happy until I found out that she does kala ilm. She has been caught red handed. I warned her not to do it again yet she is still doing it to make me under her control and leave my parents. Do I divorce her or accept she will continue this kaafir acts. Please help. I am suffering from depression since I found out.