Premarital relationships

Keeping in contact with a girl one intends to marry

Q: I love a girl and I want to marry her... She also loves me and agrees to marry me but I need some time to settle and marry her. We both are not like boyfriend and girlfriend. We don't say to each other I love you and all but we talk to each other. Is this a haraam relationship? We both are not in a relationship but is that consider as a haraam relationship?

Advising a friend who is involved in a haraam relationship

Q: My friends brother is currently in a rehab. She was very close to him and she's finding it very hard. Shes in a haraam relationship due to this. I tried advising her but she said that it keeps her mind of her brother and that she doesn't know how to end the relationship. She feels that someone else will be able to fill the gap her brother left behind. What advice should I give her? 

Getting to know the girl before marriage

Q: There is this ayah in the Quran "and that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards".

I understand that it is about afterlife and has nothing to do with wordly affairs. One of my friends used this in the context that you have to make effort to find a spouse and for that they were willing to get into talking stage with someone in the absence of a wali. Do I have to make an effort in finding a spouse and is talking to someone for that matter allowed?

Pre marital relationship

Q: I have been speaking to a girl online and we have tried to stop speaking many times and I totally regret the sin and wanted to conceal it so I didn’t tell anyone but it gets difficult because we find ourselves falling back into the sin and we want to get married. The only thing stopping is my parents so I told my parents about the situation even though I never wanted anyone to know because I wanted to conceal my sin, thinking they would assist me into getting married. However my parents have still not given me an answer and they think I’m too immature to get married and that I don't read all my Salaahs which I try my very best to perform all the time and the girl has accepted me the way I am. Can Mufti Saab please advise me.

Cheating on one's fiancée

Q: I have been in a relationship with this girl for years. In the past she betrayed me, lied to many times but eventually within time she changed and I decided to get engaged. We did get engaged and after the engagement I keet remembering what she did to me in the past and I can't forget all that she lied to me saying that her parents are dead. But within time she changed alot and for 4 years she didn't lie to me at all.

Now I started cheating on her and then I fell in love with a girl and all of sudden I stopped everything, talking to girls and all other things. I really want to get married to this girl and not my finace. I asked her to break up with me as in the future I might not be a good husband but she keeps repeating the same thing that shes not going to live without me and cries asking me to fix things.

Even if I fix things up, I I know I can never love her and make her happy. This new girl understands me very well and shes my childhood family friend and we always shared a very good understanding and trying to think of a halaal way to get together as in getting married.

Meeting one's fiancé

Q: Is it haraam for a woman to meet her fiancé before nikaah in the presence of his entire family but without any mahram from the woman's family?Actually, I want to know if it is totally haraam or just not permitted in Islam?

Girl marrying against the will of her parents

Q: I love someone who is a pious and faithful man, but my father rejected his proposal based on his family status and caste. My father fixed my marriage with someone else. I am an educated girl and a doctor by profession. I resist a lot but no one can understand it. I have no feelings for the other person. What should I do? My parents dont't listen when I tell them that I don't like this person.

Is it permissible to make nikaah against my parents will as my age is 25?