Ambiguous words of Talaaq

Q: I understand that there has to be a niyyah when one says a phrase of kinaya talaaq. I wondered that if one is arguing, and one gets a feeling like wanting to divorce or a feeling like "come on do it now (leave her) and then says a kinaya statement like "go to your father", all happening in seconds, is that a clear intention that is necessarry? But if the person asks himself a few moments later did you want to definetly divorce her now by that, the answer is no. What do i do now as i dont know whether it was an intention that counted or not? 

Q: If the husband didn't use the word talaq instead he said 3 times "ma tmhy azad karta hon" is nikah still valid? Next day he said "meray kehnay ka matlab tha ka tum azad ho jo marzi karo ma kuch ni kahon ga" and after few months he again said 1 time through text msg ka "azad ha tu" please I m very upset reply me as soon as possible. He is still my husband or not?

Q: I'm a Muslim and I have a few questions about my situation with my husband which I hope you can help with.

We been married for 4 years and one time we had an argument and he was so angry that he couldn't control what he was saying and I asked him for a divorce and he said that we are divorced, then he took me back in the same day. Another time, over the phone we had a big fight and he said to me that we will finish but we stayed together and we got advice from the imaam that it is not divorce. This week we had a fight and I gave him a choice for something either that thing or we finish, his reply was so we finish then and told me that its not his choice for that thing as it has nothing to do with him.

So we don't know if this talaq is done or not as I was on my period again. And other thing is that he is saying that he thinks that there is another time he said we finished in between these divorces times but he is not sure and I can't remember that it was any other time. So we are not sure if this is our third talaq or not and if this last one happened, also we don't know if we are still married or not.

We love eachother and we want to stay with eachother, we just want a halal life.

Q: Me and my wife often have verbal fights. One day after a verbal fight she asked me to leave her and said, "Mujhay chor kyun nahi daytay" In extreme anger I replied ,"Jao tumhain chor dia" and repeated thrice but I didnt intend divorce nor I know that these words may intend for divorce so we ignored and spent normal married relation. After months of this incident, one day my wife started having doubts that perhaps the words I used are intended for divorce. Now we both are so worried and dont know whether we are divorced or not. Please guide us.

Q: I recently got married. I live abroad and my husband is in Pakistan. One day my husband was angry and said that agar tum Pakistan na ai to meri taraf se azad ho jo marzi kro. When he was calm I asked him what he meant from the word "azad". He said that he didn't mean it as divorce but used it as he wounldn't care about what I do and I am free to do whatever I want and he won't care. He said the word "azad" once. I wanted to know if it's condtional divorce? And what if i don't go to Pakistan will it be considered as one divorce? He assured me that he didn't use the word azad fot talaq but I read somewhere that if the husband says the word azad while he is angry then there is no need to ask about his intention as he meant it as divorce thats why I am worried. And if I go to Pakistan then would it still be consisdered as divorce? One last thing is that I have to come back to Denmark every six months because of my papers. So I asked him when he was calm if he meant that if this time I won't come then I am free or every time I have to go back to Pakistan? He said he meant it this time and not for future. I hope you understand my question and can answer me as I am really confused if I should go to Pakistan or not?

Q: My husband sent a message saying to me, “Tum Azaad ho owr tum issy qaabil ho” You are free from me and this is what you deserve. Afterwards, he said, I just said those words, but I didn’t really mean it. At the time of uttering these words he was in the state of anger.

Q: My husband and I have had a lot of issues for the last 3 years. He gave me two proper talaq in November by saying, I divorce you. Then he reconciled. Again we had some differences and he said a couple of times that "tum meri taraf sey farigh ho". He also sent me two messages saying "you are free from my side and I am not interested in this relationship anymore". He messaged me that this was the last message from him. He then left the house and has been away for a month. Now he's saying that talaq hasn't taken place and I should apply for khula if I intend separation as he had no intention of leaving me despite all his messages and words. Where do I stand?

Q: Where is lafz-e-kinaya in the Quran? Many scholars say that if a husband says go to hell with the intention of divorce, then will the divorce take place? I mean talaq-e-bain, can you please tell me is there any mention of kinaya words in the Quran?

Q: If a husband told his wife many times "you are free to go forever from my life" or "go to your fathers house". Does this mean talaq?

Q: If a husband says "go away if you have a problem" to his wife. Did he give one talaaq to his wife?

If this is considered talaaq then what should a husband do in such a case?