Ambiguous words of Talaaq

Dafa hojao kehne se talaaq

Q: I have one question. Me and my husband used to say dafa hojao whenever we are having fight. Before two days, I was in hate and said to my husband give me a divorce je said dafa hojao as always he used to say this. I read yesterday it also count as talaq e bain I asked ny husband about his intension he said he didnt even know this dafa hojao also count as a divorce he said his intension was not for divorce please tell me is divorce took place?

Ambiguous words of talaaq

Q: Will words like

1. "Go leave , what do you think that I am happy with you.. no I am not ...you are here just because of our daughter otherwise I would have left you long ago "

2) "I cannot take it anymore...leave...i can not do it anymore...she is on her own I don't care anymore" And other things like this mentioning that one is suffocated in the relationship want to end it but he's helpless... would these situations mean that divorce is given?

Husband telling the wife "Go get another husband"

Q: I would like clarify the following. Emotionally down I asked my husband not to keep me hanging, if he wants to let me go he must. He said fine go. His intention was divorce so accordingly we made nikaah again. To provoke my husband (Allah forgive me) I told my husband I want another husband. He asked do you want another husband. I said yes. His replied go get another husband. He says talaaq did not fall as his intention was not talaaq. Was this a talaaq? I am confused with regards to how the first fell and this did not? We have many arguments however we love each other a lot. But pressure gets the better of us and we say silly things. I have doubts that similar statements were uttered. He says none are valid as he did not intend divorce. What is the ruling? Request for duaas.

Husband asking the wife to leave

Q: My sister has been in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship for the past 7 years. Her husband recently asked her to leave and wants nothing to do with her. She left with her 3 children. Now he refuses to give her talaq out of spite and wanting to maintain control of her. Does the fact that he asked her to leave constitute a valid talaaq?