Those situations where Talaaq does not take place

Q: I need clarity on the status of my marriage.

We have been married for 3 years. Over the 3 years it has been noted that my husband is mentally unstable. We have not yet confirmed what exactly is actually wrong with him but he has no control over his emotions and actions as many people can confirm this. He gets angry for the smallest thing and causes chaos. Once the anger subsides and he is calm only then he realises what actually took place. He is very moody and aggressive with everyone around him. He admits that he needs help and therapy as he wants to get better. Every year at a certain time he goes into a severe depression he quits his job, he is aggressive towards everyone and he just wants to sleep all day. He goes into a frame of mind where he acts like someone who is insane. One minute he is normal, next minute he becomes angry for no reason at all and starts an argument. In one instance due to something small that happend he went into a rage. This resulted in a heated argument where he said infront of people that he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me (I personally couldn't understand how he could say this because the night prior to this incident we were quite fine and he still said he loved me before we fell asleep and we had still been intimate a few days prior). Days later after the incident took place I confronted him about what had happened and only then he realised the commotion he actually caused and realised what he had said. He then begged for my forgiveness and told me that he has no control over his anger. He explained that his anger controls his mind and he cannot control what comes out of his mouth. We have a baby of a few months old and he regrets disrupting her life with his uncontrollable anger. After what happend my parents are trying to keep us from seeing each other. This situation is extremely difficult for me as an innocent baby is caught up in the middle of this drama.

We love each other very much and he has agreed to go for therapy to get help for his uncontrollable anger. We would like to make things work especially for the sake of our baby. I would just like to know whether a talaaq took place in the above mentioned situation if my husband has confirmed that he only said those things in a state of anger beyond his control without realising the consequences of his actions.

Please advise what is the correct Quranic procedure of divorce as many people believe that a talaq takes place simply if the husband utters the word or implies divorce. Is it really so simple for a man to end a marriage in Islam?

Q: I have so many issues in my life and thats why I am messaging you again and again. This is my lifes biggest problem, please give me a reply and ease my mind with the will of Allah Pak. I have waswasa in my mind. Actually me and my husband dont know that "go to hell", "leave home" also counts as a divorce. I always used to say give me a divorce whenever we fight, may Allah pak forgive me, so when I say give me divorce he always says "go to hell", "go" etc. After that when I got to know that these words also count as talaq e bain if a man's intention was divorcing his wife then I asked my husband he said Allah know my intention was never for divorce, I just said go to hell in anger nothing else, but after that I am thinking 24 hours that he is not my husband anymore. My life becomes hell because of these waswasas, what should I do? Once I said leave me and he said just to make me realize, 'I give you Tan' he did not used the word talaq or divorce he just said 'tan' then he said how could you ask for divorce even you know it is so bad. Please tell me what can I do? 

Q: Last night I had a fight with my wife and in anger I threatened her that if she countinue the same way then next time I will tell her 3 times talaq talaq talaq. Since my intention was not to give talaq, but unfortunately I said the words 3 times. I want to know whether my marriage is still valid or not. Honestly speaking I tried to threaten her and next time I will tell her. I am regretting on this since I made a big sin. 

Q: If a husband and wife are not talking to each other since two to three years and they don't have any physical relationship, so will the wife automatically be removed from the nikaah?

Q: I said to my husband that I want to go to my mothers house because I did not go to her house for 1 month. He said ok go but come back after two days. I said no I'll come after a week. He said that if you don't come in two days then always stay at your moms house. I asked him about his intention and he said that he did not intend divorce. I want to ask if divorce will take place if I stay at my moms house for more than two days?

Q: If a husband and wife are fighting and the wife asks for a divorce but the husband has no intention to give divorce and remains silent, then the wife again says that I can't live with you and husband unintentionally says okay but no intention of divorce at all. Now the wife said to him that since you said okay to my statement, our marriage is over. Please explain if it is a divorce even if the husband did not utter anything except okay. If it is a divorce then how many take place? 

Q: When I am upset or angry with my wife at that time I thought in my heart it is better to give divorce to my wife, will divorce take place or not?

Q: I've a question about my cousin (female). She was married forcefully by her parents. They forced her emotionally and with other lies and she was married. She was never happy with her marriage and she never let her husband make any relation with her. She never even let him touch her and asked for Khulaa (Divorce). When her husband forcefully tried to have some physical relation with her she said the following words: "I declare you haraam on me in the presence of Allah (with Allah as my witness). Now any relation among us will be invalid or haraam".

Now I want to ask:

1. If their marriage ends with her saying this?

2. Does she still needs a divorce? and there is no effect on their marriage?

Q: I have 3 points in my questions.

1. What is the rulling in shariah about the person who is suffering with waswasa problem might utterd the word divorce unintentionally and unintentionally.

2. If someone uttered the divorce word without any intention he just uttered due to some doubt about divorce and waswasa than is it count when he was reading regarding and thinking about this.

3. I had lot of doubt about divorce statments due to waswasa problem I might had utterd divorce word or something like this in past but I am not 100% sure I had just doubt because I have been suffering with waswasa problem since long time due to this problem many times I had repeated my all prayers and also wudhu and ghusl. Due to waswasa problem sometimes I uttered many words when I am alone so feel fear and worry what to do and how to get rid out of this situation.

Q: I am suffering waswas and doubt problem since last 7 to 8 years 24/7. I think too much might I have suffer from OCD.

Firstly if someone just uttered merely talaq word due to waswasa or record talaq word on mobile than such talaq count? However there is no intention for talaq.

Secondly if someone has merely doubt about talaq then what can he do? I had lots of waswas regarding this waswasa because shaytan always puts doubts in my mind that you have uttered talaq words in past or recent times however I do not remember what exact words or sentence I had uttered. To be honest I really deepress with such a thoughts I had repeat my wudhu, Ghusl and Salah many times because I had always feel I had missed something. How can I overcome from this sitautions? What is the rulling about talaq for such a person my nikah will be intact? I had a doubt on my nikah due to talaq doubt. I have two doubt:

1. Whether I had utter the word or not.

2. If I had utter then which word. Due to waswasa problem might I have utterd something like this or not I am not sure.