Those situations where Talaaq does not take place

Q: After a serious fight between my parents and relatives and my inlaws, my husband was forced to give talaq to me while I was in a different city. He was told that I asked him for divorce. While I didnt know anything what was happening there. It was told by my parents to ask for divorce. My husband refused to give talaq for first four days then he just gave it forcefully when he was blackmailed by my uncle that he will bring some guys to beat him or from court he will do some fight process and second lie he told him that I cannot go to Saudia without having divorce papers it is necessary. My parents lives here in Saudi and they lied about this. With that fear of being beaten by those guys or for my sake that Ive asked for it so that I could go easily with my 8 months daughter, he signed the papers without even reading it without intentions. He just had a thought while signing that Allah you are watching it that I am not willing to give plz help me.. Then he signed and cried alot. In short, we both were lied to about each other. He didnt know this was happening and he didnt even want divorce and he was told that your wife is asking for it. On the other hand I was told that he gave you divorce by his will. Is this divorce valid?

Q: In the past I had some disputes with my wife. Alhamdulillah things are better now. However, sometimes I have waswasa if divorce may be occurred.

I have several questions but biggest one I will ask now others maybe later. One such instance is as follows that I would like to ask. We had been separated for several months. There was a meeting with some elders about our marriage and it was decided to give us 1 month more to sort things out to get back together. At the end of this meeting, I said something to one of the elders like "okay so we have 1 month to work things out, if things work out she will be back within 1 month and if not then..." and I basically stopped and there was non-verbal expressions. I did not mention "divorce" in that sentence and neither do I believe that was my intention. However, I did sort of in a way imply divorce and afterwards I mentioned to others as well that "we have a 1 month time limit to work things out".

We got back together but a couple of weeks past 1 month. After 1 month passed, I started getting waswasa that maybe I had stated a conditional divorce which I did not realize earlier.

I do believe although I was implying that things will not work out if it goes past one month, I did not intend it to be a conditional divorce upon one month but rather that a decision of divorce would have to be made (so basically I was saying something like so we have 1 month to make a decision).

I don't believe my understanding was that divorce would take place automatically after 1 month, but rather that a decision would have to be made. After 1 month but before we got back together, as part of a conversation I also said something to my wife like "We had 1 month time limit, if things worked out you would be back if not we would be ending it" or something similar like "if not things would be over".

I just want to know if this was conditional divorce. Again I did not use the word of divorce and I don't believe it was my intention.

Q: My wife and I were having a conversation. We were talking about something regarding the sleeping patterns of our child. She wanted to try a different technique for our child who wakes up often at night to feed. I made the statement "Why don't you go to your parents house and try it". Prior to making this statement my intention was she go to her parents house for holiday. However I was aware that certain statements of this nature may constitute talaq. While I was making the statement, the thought and feeling came in my mind that my intention is talaq. I suffer from waswasa with certain things like whudu and salaah.

Does this constitute talaq?

Q: If my wife make intercourse with another person, will the talaq be executed automatically?

Q: Me and my husband were talking and he asked me to give him milk, so I was like plain or hot, but he wanted a smoothy like milk. I didn't feel like making it so he was upset. I told him to have good character and show akhlaaq. He said that I do a lot of sabr. So I said, like my step mum? He said yes. (My step mum has a problem with her step mum in law and she dont want to keep her anymore because of issues they have so she said she cant make sabr anymore and she dont want her in her house). Does that consitute a divorce? Because he said he did a lot of sabr.

Q: I need clarity on the status of my marriage.

We have been married for 3 years. Over the 3 years it has been noted that my husband is mentally unstable. We have not yet confirmed what exactly is actually wrong with him but he has no control over his emotions and actions as many people can confirm this. He gets angry for the smallest thing and causes chaos. Once the anger subsides and he is calm only then he realises what actually took place. He is very moody and aggressive with everyone around him. He admits that he needs help and therapy as he wants to get better. Every year at a certain time he goes into a severe depression he quits his job, he is aggressive towards everyone and he just wants to sleep all day. He goes into a frame of mind where he acts like someone who is insane. One minute he is normal, next minute he becomes angry for no reason at all and starts an argument. In one instance due to something small that happend he went into a rage. This resulted in a heated argument where he said infront of people that he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me (I personally couldn't understand how he could say this because the night prior to this incident we were quite fine and he still said he loved me before we fell asleep and we had still been intimate a few days prior). Days later after the incident took place I confronted him about what had happened and only then he realised the commotion he actually caused and realised what he had said. He then begged for my forgiveness and told me that he has no control over his anger. He explained that his anger controls his mind and he cannot control what comes out of his mouth. We have a baby of a few months old and he regrets disrupting her life with his uncontrollable anger. After what happend my parents are trying to keep us from seeing each other. This situation is extremely difficult for me as an innocent baby is caught up in the middle of this drama.

We love each other very much and he has agreed to go for therapy to get help for his uncontrollable anger. We would like to make things work especially for the sake of our baby. I would just like to know whether a talaaq took place in the above mentioned situation if my husband has confirmed that he only said those things in a state of anger beyond his control without realising the consequences of his actions.

Please advise what is the correct Quranic procedure of divorce as many people believe that a talaq takes place simply if the husband utters the word or implies divorce. Is it really so simple for a man to end a marriage in Islam?

Q: I have so many issues in my life and thats why I am messaging you again and again. This is my lifes biggest problem, please give me a reply and ease my mind with the will of Allah Pak. I have waswasa in my mind. Actually me and my husband dont know that "go to hell", "leave home" also counts as a divorce. I always used to say give me a divorce whenever we fight, may Allah pak forgive me, so when I say give me divorce he always says "go to hell", "go" etc. After that when I got to know that these words also count as talaq e bain if a man's intention was divorcing his wife then I asked my husband he said Allah know my intention was never for divorce, I just said go to hell in anger nothing else, but after that I am thinking 24 hours that he is not my husband anymore. My life becomes hell because of these waswasas, what should I do? Once I said leave me and he said just to make me realize, 'I give you Tan' he did not used the word talaq or divorce he just said 'tan' then he said how could you ask for divorce even you know it is so bad. Please tell me what can I do? 

Q: Last night I had a fight with my wife and in anger I threatened her that if she countinue the same way then next time I will tell her 3 times talaq talaq talaq. Since my intention was not to give talaq, but unfortunately I said the words 3 times. I want to know whether my marriage is still valid or not. Honestly speaking I tried to threaten her and next time I will tell her. I am regretting on this since I made a big sin. 

Q: If a husband and wife are not talking to each other since two to three years and they don't have any physical relationship, so will the wife automatically be removed from the nikaah?

Q: I said to my husband that I want to go to my mothers house because I did not go to her house for 1 month. He said ok go but come back after two days. I said no I'll come after a week. He said that if you don't come in two days then always stay at your moms house. I asked him about his intention and he said that he did not intend divorce. I want to ask if divorce will take place if I stay at my moms house for more than two days?