Oaths & Vows

Q: When I was in grade 7, around the age of 13, I'm not sure whether I was baligh then, but our school went in a camp tour and at the camp some of the boys including me were swearing when we were talking. The camp instructors heard us swearing and reported us to the teachers who then threatened to report us to our parents. Me being young and terrified I said to my non Muslim teacher out of fear of my situation 'Kassam I won't swear again'. Does this count as an oath? Also when I was in grade 8 I felt ashame of an act that I committed so I said while making dua, "Forgive me for committing that act,  kassam I won't commit that act again" I haven't sworn or think I've used a swear word since and I've committed the second act about 10 times in the last 5 years.  

I want to know if this counts as a breaking an oath and what do I have to do to get forgiven? And do these oaths even count because I'm pretty sure I wasn't baligh for the first 'oath', and the second one I made when I was baligh while making dua I said those words ' kassam I won't do it again' Does the oath count?

Q: If I made a promise to Allah Ta'ala that, if I was to be cured from this illness, I would never do a particular sin again. However when you get better you fall into that type of sin again.

Now does this mean I will be included in the verse of surah tawbah verse 75-77 who Allah Ta'ala punished with hypocrisy as a result of breaking a promise with Allah Almighty. I am really worried that I  am going to be punished with hypocrisy and die a hypocrite.

Q: A person says "If I commit such and such a sin, I will fast every Monday and Thursday". The person committed the sin so started fasting. Does the option of paying kaffarah for breaking an oath still remain or has it closed because he has already started fasting?

Q: I would like to ask regarding the following matter:

I promised Allah to donate a specific amount from my first salary. I am doing an internship and I am a student. Now I am deciding to give that amount in Bakra Eid to buy a cow. Is it okay? Because my family might also eat some meat from that cow but almost 85% is distributed to the needy. My intentions were to give that money to some specific individuals who cam benefit from that money. But now I am thinking to contribute my amount to buy a cow in Bakra Eid. Can you please suggest what should I do?

Q: I have a made a wrong promise in angar. Me and my husband had a fight and I was angry and I promised myself that I will not go out with him ever and if I go I will see my child dead. It was a very big mistake I did. I want to know what should be done about this.

Q: One of my friends is addicted to smoking. His father caught him many times. Yesterday his father caught him and he forced him to take an oath on Qur'an. He said "I will not do this thing again" and having his hand on Quran . He is 17 years old . He said I dont know how long my life is. If I break that Oath, what is the Kaffarah? Is there any way to revert it?

Q: If someone says InshaAllah after something, is it considered as an oath? 

Q: I took a wow that if I get employment opportunity which is halaal I will fast for 40 days and go for umrah. Can I start fasting immediately after taking a wow or wait until I'm employed or get a business opportunity? Appreciate your priceless answer. Jazakallah

Q: I had made a vow that if I do a particular sin ever again in my life I will pray so many number of Rakaats. However I am finding it difficult to fulfill the vow because I keep relapsing into the sin. May Allah help me abstain.Am I allowed to change or break the vow so I no longer have to pray those many numberof rakaats?

Q: Some days back I admitted my wife in a hospital because she was pregnant and doctors have confirmed that the child in her womb may have some defect and he may not survive longer. On hearing this news from the doctors, my mother decided to sacrifice a sheep in the path of Almighty Allah and distribute the meat to the neighbours so that Allah's blessings will be showered upon us. After the delivery, the infant was admitted in the hospital for 9 days and by the grace of Allah, the baby is recovering too fast and today we were discharged from the hospital. Now my mother is insisting to sacrifice the sheep and distribute it among our neighbours but I am trying to convince her that we should give the sheep or sell the sheep or pay its cost (cost of that sheep) to the masjid (mosque) which is under construction. Now I want to know what will be the better option, to sacrifice it and distribute it among the neighbours or to pay its cost to the masjid?