Oaths & Vows

Q: I would like to ask regarding the following matter:

I promised Allah to donate a specific amount from my first salary. I am doing an internship and I am a student. Now I am deciding to give that amount in Bakra Eid to buy a cow. Is it okay? Because my family might also eat some meat from that cow but almost 85% is distributed to the needy. My intentions were to give that money to some specific individuals who cam benefit from that money. But now I am thinking to contribute my amount to buy a cow in Bakra Eid. Can you please suggest what should I do?

Q: I have a made a wrong promise in angar. Me and my husband had a fight and I was angry and I promised myself that I will not go out with him ever and if I go I will see my child dead. It was a very big mistake I did. I want to know what should be done about this.

Q: One of my friends is addicted to smoking. His father caught him many times. Yesterday his father caught him and he forced him to take an oath on Qur'an. He said "I will not do this thing again" and having his hand on Quran . He is 17 years old . He said I dont know how long my life is. If I break that Oath, what is the Kaffarah? Is there any way to revert it?

Q: If someone says InshaAllah after something, is it considered as an oath? 

Q: I took a wow that if I get employment opportunity which is halaal I will fast for 40 days and go for umrah. Can I start fasting immediately after taking a wow or wait until I'm employed or get a business opportunity? Appreciate your priceless answer. Jazakallah

Q: I had made a vow that if I do a particular sin ever again in my life I will pray so many number of Rakaats. However I am finding it difficult to fulfill the vow because I keep relapsing into the sin. May Allah help me abstain.Am I allowed to change or break the vow so I no longer have to pray those many numberof rakaats?

Q: Some days back I admitted my wife in a hospital because she was pregnant and doctors have confirmed that the child in her womb may have some defect and he may not survive longer. On hearing this news from the doctors, my mother decided to sacrifice a sheep in the path of Almighty Allah and distribute the meat to the neighbours so that Allah's blessings will be showered upon us. After the delivery, the infant was admitted in the hospital for 9 days and by the grace of Allah, the baby is recovering too fast and today we were discharged from the hospital. Now my mother is insisting to sacrifice the sheep and distribute it among our neighbours but I am trying to convince her that we should give the sheep or sell the sheep or pay its cost (cost of that sheep) to the masjid (mosque) which is under construction. Now I want to know what will be the better option, to sacrifice it and distribute it among the neighbours or to pay its cost to the masjid?

Q: Will an oath be valid if it is made in the heart without uttering it?

Q:

1. Is it permissible to give kaffara money for breaking an oath (sadaqatul fitr amount) to one poor person instead of ten?

2. In the above situation, by giving kaffara money for breaking an oath to one person instead of ten, will the kaffara be discharged or will it have to be given again?

Q: Can we take an oath by the name of Allah not to think of someone? Is it acceptable as an oath or not?