Parents commanding to do something which involves the disobedience of Allah Ta’ala
Q: If parents give us an order that is against Islam, should we obey that?
obeying one's parents
Listening to one's parents with regards to marriage
Q: I just wanted to know if a girl is pious, has good character and is from a good home, but she is not from the same caste (surti and non surti), is it a good enough reason for my parents to not allow me to marry her?
Listening to one's father
Q: A person has a cat. He and his family love the cat. But the person’s father does not like him to keep the cat and he says to the person that he should not keep the cat. But the person and his family are so attached to the cat. They do not want to give the cat to anyone. The thought of staying without the cat makes them cry. So can the person keep the cat? If the person does not listen to his father’s advice because listening to his father’s this advice will emotionally hurt his family a lot, then is he sinning?
Obeying one's mother
Q: I am passing through a bad phase in life. My mother shows favoratisam between her children. She always hates so in return I disobey her. She prefers my brothers, what should I do in these circumstances? I want to commit suicide. She looks down upon me and teases me. I am an aalima and 25 years old. I feel a block on my heart when I disobey her but what can I do? Am I a sinner? How can I obey her?
Parents stopping son from keeping a beard
Q: I try my best to pray salaah 5 times, stay away from sins, tell others about it but because of one thing I am really depressed. Because of this I am not able to concentrate in salaah, etc. At present, I keep a very little beard. I want to keep a long beard as we know in Islam it is mandatory to keep the beard and not to cut it. My parents live in Saudi Arabia and I am studying in India. My parents, especially my father don't want me to keep a beard in india because he is worried that after the new govt came in power, the Muslims are being attacked and put to death. There have been cases of this also. So he keeps shouting and telling me not to keep it there and when I come back to Saudi or a Muslim country then I can keep it. I keep thinking about this and I get headaches. I am not able to concentrate in salaah and I don't live a happy life just because of this issue... I tried explaining to them in a nice way but it dosent work. What should I do?
Maintaining good relations with one's father
Q: My father is 74 and is remarrying after my mother's death. He didn't inform me about the marriage and cut all ties with me. Is it allowed in Islam to cut ties with one's son?
Respect for parents
Q: I hate my parents but I am a girl and I am not yet married so I cannot move out. I just cannot stand them. What do you advise? I feel they do injustice to me in many ways
Deen ki baate me waalidain ki baat maanna
Q: Agar zaid jamaat me jana chahta deen ka kaam karne k liye aur zaid k walidain ijazat na de to is ke liye kya shariyat ka hukm h?
Nikaah se pehle najaaiz ta'alluq rakhna
Q: My question is, kya muhabbat karna gunna hai? Kya musalman se muhabbat karna gunnah h? Jis insan se main muhabbat karte hu woh musalman h in fact hanafi h kiya yeh kafi nhn h? Kya kuwari baligh bache apni marzi se nikah nhn karsakte? Main alima banne wali hu bs 2 ya 3 saal reh gaye h muje recently realize hua k pehle Allah hai phir duniya. Jab maine realize kiya k pehle Allah phir duniya h toh jis bande se main muhabbat karte hu woh baligh musalman woh bhi hanafi h kiya yeah kafi nhn h? Hamare ustado ne yeh sikhaya k jab kisi kuwari aur baligh ka nikah ka time ata h toh woh khudi decide kar sakte h. Mere ma baap specially ma chati h k main mufti se nikah karu. Kaise trust karu jab aj kal k zamane main trust karna he mushkil h jaise hufaz smoke aur drink karte h, jab k Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) k zamane main huffaz Quran ko protect aur yaad karte thai aur jab written nhn hoti thi toh foran yaad karte thai. Same goes with mufti aj kal k zamane main mufti ab marte galiyan bagte paise k peeche jate jab k Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) k zamane main bilkul he nhn tha. That's something different but jab hazarat Ali, Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) k ghar main dakhil hue thai aur hazrat Fatima k liye rishta mange thai toh ap ne farmaya insha Allah aur foran apne baite hazrat Fatima k paas chale aye aur faramaye baite Fatima hazrat Ali ne apke liye rishta mangne aye haan kehdu? Toh hazrat Fatima ne farmaya ji phir apne rishte ko accept kiya. Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) ne toh gali nhn de nor beti k saath batameez ki nor force kiya k tum mufti se nikah karna lazmi h. Yeh toh nhn kaha right??.. Jab hum Islam ko sikh rahe hain toh amal bhi karna chaye. Beshaq Islam main 4 cheezain dekhna chaye nikah k liye. Par jis bande se main muhabbat karte hu woh musalman h kafir nhn yahan tak k woh shia nhn h bs hanafi h aur musalman bhi kiya kafi nhn h? Main alima ban rahe hu aur mushkil se deen ko accept kiya jab k main duniya k studies k peeche bhag rahe the aur jab k maine muhabbat ki toh deen pata nhn kahan se kahan take phoch gaye jab k na islam main aur na deen main force h. Main kiya karu? Main unhe se nikah karna chati jisse main behad muhabbat karte. Muje pata h deen muhabbat se chalta h na k zabardasti se. Main zabardasti ki wajah se ghalat raaste main nhn jaana chati hu par lag raha zabardasti ki wajah se arahe hu. Muje pata nhn main kiya karu? Kahan jao? Kisse bolu? Yahan tak k meri ma khud alima ban rahe h shes deenv and duniyav educated but still she's acting like she doesnt know anything? Dusra sawal kiya kisi momin k feeling k saath kehlna islam main jaiz h?? Kisi momin k feelings ko hurt karna islam main jaiz h? Kiya yeh islam h? Jab ek couple ek dusre ko muhabbat karte unke feelings k saath kehlna jaiz h?? Jab ma baap baat nhn sunte bacho ki toh khudkushi karwana inhn m main jaiz h? Jab couple main se ek banda cough syrup piye jab woh larki se behad muhabbat karta h larki k ma baap ki wajah se kiya yeh islam main jaiz h? Dusro ko hurt karna aur apne manmane karna kya yeh islam main jaiz h? Kya yeh sab islam main jaiz h?
Obeying one's parents
Q: My mother and other people of my family and village forced me to marry a girl who is not of my choice. I like some one else. I am confused what shall I do. The girl I liked is ready to marry me with my new forceful wife in my life.
1. I want to ask that shall I go ahead and marry the girl of my choice?
2. I dont like my present forceful wife. Shall I divorce her or keep her?
3. The girl I like says she is ready to marry me with this condition but she thinks she will do a crime by this as she has a feeling that my relation with my forceful wife will be affected. I dont like my forceful wife and I dont have any relation with her. Is the girl I like is right?