responsibility

Q: A brother and sister had two parents living in city A. At 16, the sister left and moved to South Africa where she ended up living, eventually getting married, having children and owning a business. Alhumdulillah, very successful. The brother stayed in city A, and ended up staying and living with his parents, until they were old and both died. Both parents had very bad health issues, were disabled, and it was a very challenging last few years. He is a teacher and recently married very late in life. The inheritance of both parents were equally divided to both children, while they were alive to, 1 house each. While the mother was alive the rental income from the daughters house was her income, while they lived in the son's house. After the parents death, the tenants of the daughters house were removed because of no rent payment. The house was in complete disarray and broken and dirty inside. Now, we are trying to determine who pays for the damages? There is no money left from estate.

Q:

1. Is it permissible for my husband to drink/swallow my milk intentionally and unintentionally. I am breastfeeding his son. Whilst making love to me he squeezes my breasts and sucks my nipples very hard and there is milk all round his mouth and I know he is also taking it inside.

2. Am I responsible to make food for my father in law when my husband calls me to bed to fulfil his needs and satisfy him? 

Q: I want to know that if a child was expected to do certain things (provide,work etc) for the family by a certain age even when having other responsibilities isn't it only fair to expect all the other children, when they reach that age to be expected to do the same (especially since they have lesser responsibility than the first child did) as in Islam all the children should be treated equally, so just like they will have give driving lessons to the others as they did for the first child the same way the other children should be expected to do the same chores and work for the family the way the first child did.

Q: I am a 34 year old married Indian living in South Africa. I came here in 2014 alone for work, I met a Christian lady in 2015 and had sex with her, I did not know her but it happened suddenly/by chance and it was only once no more after that day, it was protected with condom. After one year that lady claimed that she gave birth to a baby girl from me, I wasn't sure with it and then I did a DNA test, the result is positive and says the baby is mine. So in this case what must I do? I cant marry her as I am already married and have 2 sons and they are with me now, I can't even adopt that child. What is the punishment of this great sin? Please advise me.

Q: I was 18 when I met my now husband...and I found out after I fell in love with him that he has a illigitimate child..he had no contact with her since birth and did not want to as the mother didn't want him to have any rifts over the child as she was to marry a man she cheated with on my husband in the past... For 16 years there was no contact and I married my husband on the grounds that this will never be a problem 1 day as I was never given a option to accept this with him or not... Furthermore for years he did not want this himself..

A few months ago after 16 years the child contacted het father and out of no where he wanted to have a relationship with her but his ex and child is not muslim and I could not bring myself to accept this...

Firstly the child isn't islam..2ndly I feel betrayed at the fact that I have to change my life for others mistakes of 16 years..my pious parents accepted this marriage on grounds that this would never come back like this...

I do feel bad as I told my husband...i cannot accept his estranged ex and child which isn't muslim in my life after so many years when now I want to start my own family and if he wants his child I have no choice but to divorce him as I cannot accept and fix a 16 year lost relationship of him and his daughter.. Am I wrong to not accept this?because I feel like I've been wronged by him and his false promise at the time of marriage..im scared Allah will punish me for stopping him and the child from having a relationship...

Please help

Q: Kia waldaaen (agr sirf walda hon) kee zamadaree beton pr betion se zyada hae? Agr beta aik ho aur 4 betian. All married.

2. Agar fajr kee qaza namsz ada krnee ho to 2 sunat 2 faraz parhen gae ya sirf 2 farz.

Q: We have three children and expecting fourth one. My cousin do not have any child, sometime back they asked my wife if you have another child, promise me to give that child, which my wife promised her. Now in light of Quran and Sunnah, can we give our child to my cousin?