Rights of people

Q: Who is responsible from both parents to assist a baligh boy who is mentally challenged, to assist him in shaving, scrubbing and bathing. He is 24, but looks like a 14 year old. His hands cannot reach out to even wash himself in the toilet, hasn't got flexible fingers to use properly. 

The mother does everything as the father shows very little or no interest. Please advise. 

She doesn't mind taking care of her son, but also wants the father to share in the reward Allah will grant, in sha Allah. 

Q: We have a male family member who is mentally retarded. Who is responsible for his well-being? 

He has the following family members living: 3 sisters and a brother. From his nephews, he has 2 male nephews who are the sons of his late brother. From his sisters, he has a few male nephews as well.

Q: Can I call my sister who is 3 years elder than me by her name? Is it permissible in Islam or a sin?

Q: When I was a teenager I used a picture and name of some other girl in my school and pretended to be her. I spoke to one boy in my school and we spoke inappropriately. I felt guilty and deleted it. This was years before I started praying and fasting but I still feel so guilty for the girl who’s picture and name I used.

I paid sadaqah in her name and I asked Allah Ta'ala for forgiveness years ago. I still feel upset and disgusted at myself. I dont believe I can contact the girl, and even if I could, I dont believe I would be able to tell her.

Is there anything else that I have to do to absolve myself?

Q: A person owns a yard in which there is a mango tree. The neighbour claims that her late mother planted the tree. To whom does the tree/mangoes belong to? 

Q: If at some point in a person’s life he would disturb a non-Muslim neighbour of his in a way where there was this sort of pipe thing outside his house such that it was loose and when moved back and forth it would make a noise inside the house. So at times where he repeatedly pushed that back and forth and times where he climbed into this neighbour’s garden numerous times without permission and at times the neighbour may have come out angry at this. The neighbour has passed away now. What do I do?

Q: Someone told me a secret and I promised not to tell anyone. However, because the person who told me the secret started telling others with whom he is not even close. I ended up telling someone else the secret. I know this is wrong and an act of hypocrisy. How do I go about in making taubah and making up for this sin?

Q: I sold my gold bracelet to the jeweller and my dad found out about it later on. He did not know that I had sold it. The bangle belonged to me but I’m still living with my parents.

My dads an alcoholic, he’s abusive and physically abusive as well. He thought that my house helper had stolen it and I remained quiet because I was too scared of how he would react. He got my house helper arrested and I remained quiet through out. Did I commit a sin? Will it count as stealing?

Q: What is the status of grandparents in Islam? 

If one is disobedient to his grandparents is the sin the same as if one was disobedient to his parents?

Q: Is touching other people's things (for knowledge purposes only) without asking them a sin?