Q: What are the responsibilities of a daughter, who is an only child, towards her mother, who is a single parent?
Do any of these responsibilities change upon the daughter getting married?
What are the rights that her mother has over her?
Q: If the commands from your parents are contradictory, who do you obey?
Q: My son left the fold of Islam many years ago. We broke ties with him. Can I contact him now? Would I be sinful if I contact him since he is a murtad?
Q: If it is permissible to delay denouncing evil (النهي عن المنكر) for a good reason, then if I see someone cursing, for example, if I advise him and he curses and he does not respond, and I say I will delay the advice until he calms down, but he calms down and I did not advise him, and two days passed, should I advise him after two days or is the obligation waived? And why is it waived when it is a debt?
Q: Does my father have to take responsibility of his sister whose husband died but she has a son whose age is 20+? Will my father be a sinner if he doesn't take responsibility of his sister? The son is unemployed.
Q: I have a question regarding milk parents.
I was conceived by my biological parents with the intention of being adopted by my aunty (fathers sister) as she hadn’t had any children with her husband for 11 years.
When I was born, I was adopted and grew up in another city with my (new) milk parents. From small I was told about my adoption so it wasn’t something shocking to me.
I grew up knowing my siblings and visiting my biological parents often, but my milk parents were like my real/main parents and my biological were like my aunty and uncle.
Now that I’m older and married and my siblings are also older and married and I’m staying in the town I grew up with my biological parents. I hadn’t been there as much and made the khidmat owed to my biological parents.
My biological parents said multiple times that I should treat my milk parents as my real ones and that they (the biological ones) hold no haq over me. I asked my shaikh what to do and he says that shariah is above everything and that their words or emotions don’t govern what the actual rights to them are.
So my question is who holds more right over me, the milk parents who raised me or the biological parents who bore me?
When it comes to khidmat or instruction, who holds more weight?
And lastly, if they excuse me from khidmat what does it mean?
Q: I want to know if it is permissible for family to stay away from other family members who have sexually molested their child.
Q: My mom divorced 15 years ago. My dad died 10 years ago but after his death since we were kids, mom decided to come and stay with us. She doesn't share any inheritance saying it's her right and her property and the rent which came from the property she favours the eldest brother and doesn't give us any of the part for 9 years.
Now I am married and she's demanding me to take care of her monthly allowance which I simply denied because I am living separately and said that for 9 years you didn't give me my money that we got from tenants neither the share of the inheritance so why would I give you the allowance. Is it allowed for me to deny the request based on that or should I give her the allowance which I know will be given to my eldest brother who's 28 and physically good enough to earn by his own but he doesn't since he's spoiled by my mother and doesn't will to work or contribute to the house at all?
Q: My children's father is addicted to drugs.
I do not feel comfortable with them spending time in his company & I'm advising them to help him with food only if he gets sick as I feel they are enabling his habit. He manipulates them to feel sympathy for him & uses them for money, transport, food etc. Am I incorrect for doing this?
Q: Who is responsible from both parents to assist a baligh boy who is mentally challenged, to assist him in shaving, scrubbing and bathing. He is 24, but looks like a 14 year old. His hands cannot reach out to even wash himself in the toilet, hasn't got flexible fingers to use properly.
The mother does everything as the father shows very little or no interest. Please advise.
She doesn't mind taking care of her son, but also wants the father to share in the reward Allah will grant, in sha Allah.