Upbringing and Tarbiyah

Ownership of money given to one's child

Q: I am almost 16 years old. My parents give me pocket money every month. When they give me this money, do I become the Maalik (owner) of that money or does it remain under the ownership of my parents?

If sometimes they need some money, they ask me to lend them some money as loan. And if my mother thinks that I am not spending my money right, she takes my purse and money from me and keeps it with her and returns it after some time.

If I save that money over time and buy an online course with that money. The online course is about how to earn money online. So, if I learn from that course how to earn money online and then I earn money online, will that money which I earn, be considered under my ownership or my parents ownership? Because if it is in my parents ownership then it will be divided in Wirasat.

Right of a mother in making decisions for her children

Q: I have 2 children aged 2 years old and a 3 month old baby. My husband tells me that I have no right in making any decisions for the babies such as something as small as cutting or triming their hair, he has every right to make the decisions. Is he right?

What rights does a mother have? Should I just keep quite and let him do as he pleases even if it makes me unhappy?

Cursing one's child

Q: One of my acquaintance curses his daughter with haraam animal (pig) whenever he is angry or in rage. Kindly explain what are the precautions to be taken and what consequences can be held against that person in the eyes of Allah!

Instilling love for the Quraan in the heart of one's child

Q: My husband and I have been blessed with a baby alhamdulillah. We would like the baby to have finished memorising the Quraan by an early age if Allah wills.

What steps can we take to ensure that the child can begin learning and memorising from an early age? What brain foods would also be good for the child and mother as I’m nursing currently.

Making an effort to ensure that one's baaligh son wakes up for Fajr

Q: I have a 16 year old son that cannot wake up for Fajr every day. My wife says to me that’s it’s our responsibility to make sure he gets up. Is it really our duty to ensure that he wakes up for Fajr everyday?

In the past, when I would wake him up, he would say that he is getting up, but most of the time, he would not wake up. Sehri is also a problem, though eventually, he does wake up for sehri. My view is that since he is old enough, if he misses salaah, he will be sinful, not his parents.