consulting parents

Disowning one's children

Q: I'm a mum and my daughter went to marry a guy behind our backs and it's her second marriage. We were not happy about it but she says that she's very happy. She only told me this yesterday and her father doesn't even know yet and I'm very worried what he's reaction will be. I have disowned her. Have I done the right thing? There two little grandchildren of mine which I have disowned too and it's hurting me very badly. Please advice. 

Premarital relationship

Q: Im in a relationship with someone and we want to marry each other as soon as possible but because of the halat we are not able to marry each other. My parents are against our relationship and his parents are fine with the relationship. I dont know what to do? I want him. I dont know how to make this relationship in to husband and wife? What should I do so that my parents can accept him and our relationship? What dua or wazifa should I do to get him? 

Marrying a boy of one's parents choice

Q: I have a sister and she is 25 years old and I am her elder brother. Recently we have fixed my sisters marriage with a person who I know. Now I came to know she loves another man, so personally me, my brother, my mother and father tried to contact the boy who my sister loves. When we asked him he says that he don’t want to marry my sister. I did my utmost level to make my sister marry the person she loves but he don’t want to marry her at any cost and he keeps giving excuses of his parents.

Now my sisters marriage is already fix and my sister says that whatever my parents say she will do. I am concerned about my sister and I want to see her happy.

A few days back I spoke to her and explained to her, so she said she will marry with the person her parents wants. Somtimes she is happy somtimes she is sad. I don’t knw what to do. Will I be accountable infront of Allah if she married to the person of our choice.

Marrying a Christian girl

Q: I am a Muslim guy and I have been in a relationship with a christian girl for a while. I am trying to make this relationship permissible on all aspects and I want to marry her but we are not planning to register this marriage in the court (not legal marriage) just Islamic so that we can be confident that whatever we are doing is not a sin/Haram. We are very serious in this relationship and we want to take it to a legal marriage level but not now since she is still a college student and her parents and not fine with her getting married that early. I believe, I can fulfil all the Islamic marriage requirements from bringing in witnesses to announcing my marriage. It's worth mentioning that we live apart in two different cities, more than 6 hours away from each other but we do see each other every once in a while.

My question is: Is marry this girl according to the Islamic laws permissible?

Fear of marriage due to being sexually weak

Q: Due to excessive masturbation since my childhood, i have become very weak sexually. Now my family wants me to get married. I also want to get married but I try to run from it because of my sexual weakness. I do not want to be embarassed in front of my wife. Please tell what should I do. Also, I also feel shy when I think of having sex with my wife. I try a lot to stop masturbation but I cannot.