consulting parents

Consulting one's parents with regards to nikaah

Q: Please advise: I am a 25 year old female and feel that I am ready for marriage. My parents have been looking for a suitable spouse for me. So far I have had boys (who were suggested my family members/family friends) come home to propose but it did not go further because both I and my family felt that the boy and I were not compatible. An old friend (female) recently contacted me through Facebook and said that her cousin (who went to the same school as me -7 years ago) is ready for marriage and would like to contact my parents. I am aware of the fitna of social media and have been very careful about how I use it. I do not post any pictures of myself so I am certain that this is not the reason that her cousin would like to speak to my parents. Would you advise that I give this friend my parents' contact details? Or would it be better to turn down her request and wait for another proposal to be suggested by a family member?

Dream

Q: I asked you about this dream but you just said dont do anything without consulting with your parents but you didnt tell me anything if this dream was good or not or should we both proceed for marriage or not.

I just wanna ask you this. Can you please tell me if this dream was good or not. I'm so confused. I want to ask you something about istikhara dream.

Me and my partner wants to get married and we were doing istikhara for our marriage. I was doin it to but didnt see anything yet, but he had a dream last night. It was about going home on sea in a ship with friends. He told me "hum sab pla krty hain janay ka ship k andar sea mae and jo ship hoti hai wo mere dad ki hoti hai mtlb *mere father ki* mere partner k father ki nae. He said k hum kch larkay or larkiyan hotay hain office k tu hum ship mae beth j jatay hain sab tu udhr sab kapry change krne lgty hain na tu tm ajeb se kapry pehn leti ho chotay or wo mjhy pasand nahi atay hain tu mae tmhe bolta hu k maham ye kya hai tm ne ye kya pehna hai tu tm mou bna k beth jati ho or kch nae bolti naraz ho k bas beth jati phr mjhy gusa ata hai or mae kch bhi nae krta hu bas mae na swimming krne k liye sea mae jump krta hu n tum sab mjhy dekh rhy hotay ho mae akela he sea mae jump krta hu phr mjhy ye b dar hta hai k mjhy koe shark a k na kha jaye, then he said in sab k badh jab hum free ho jatay hain tu mae tmhre dad ko call krta hu or wo mjhse puchty hain k sab kaisa raha mae kehta hu k acha tha sab but thk se unhe kch nae batata k kya hua mae keh deta hu k sab acha tha then wo mjhy kehty hain k acha tm log gaye thy beta meri ship py tu mjhy rent dy do mae kehta hu k uncle wo tu thk hai mae de deta hu but mae maham ka kch lgta hu and ap rent mang rhy hain tu tmhre dad kehty k han beta wo tu dena hai na. Phr he said mjhy agy thk se kch yd nae. He said last mae main n tm bethy hty hain sath mae n mae tmhe ye kehta hu k tmhre liye koe bargedier he thk rhy ga. Bas phr dream khtm ho jata.

Can you plz tell me what does that mean? Is it a positive dream or not? Should we get married or not? Can you plz tell me the true meaning/tabeer of this dream. As we both are so tensed and we both wanna get married cause we both love each other si much.

Pasand ki shaadi

Q: Mera swl ye hai k me psnd ki shdi krna chhti hn or mje lgta hai k mere papa shyd whn na mane to me us k lie ayat karima prd rhi hn or us ki koi tadad ni prdhi ja rhi hn jb tk papa mane nahi abhi unhe malum nahi k me psnd ki kru gi mgr mje shq hai k nahi mane ge whn to me us k lie prd rhi hn kia is se asar ho ga k mere walid man jae?

Waalidayn se mashwara karna nikaah ke baare me

Q: Mujhy ik masla baayan karna tha, masla meri shadi ka ha, ik larky k sath meri razamandi, meri khawsih b ha k meri us sy shadi ho, or us ki taraf b yhi mamla ha, us k ghar waly raazi hain, ab masla yh ha koi rasta nazar nai araha k kis tarah apny ghar walo us k bary m batao k wo rishta lana chahta ha, yh koi esa zariya paida ho jis s asani ho, meri rehnumai karein bhot zada pereshan ho, Allah n chah tu ghar waly raazi hojayn gy, lkn koi zariya paida ho jis s wo rishta ly k asky ghar tk, Allah ka shukar ha meri yh soch nai ha k khuda na khausta maa baap k khilaf ja k shadi karo us s, maa baap ki raza mandi s hi shadi karna chahti ho lkn koi rasta smjh nai araha, mujhy in sb kamo ki asani k lye koi wazifa bta dein.

Dreams

Q: Whenever I’m in dilemma I always do istaqara and allhamdulila it is proved as fruitful for me. Now I did istaqara for my marriage. And I saw many dreams in single night. I asked Allah if I should ask ammi again for same proposal, and should I marry him because I don’t want any problems in both the families plus if it is better for us to marry? because once it is rejected by aunt when he visited my home because of his looks. As I metioned many dreams I saw one of it was-

1. I saw a dream of istaqara that that guy and my family are sitting and discussing. So I spoke to my ammi again and convenes her that when I selected that guy on the basis of his akhlak , Namazi and Deeni then why you are going on his looks.

2. I saw dream on same night that I’m standing where wooden drums are set one above the other. And on each drum, there is one question and I have to answer. The first answer I gave correct the second one I don’t know answer so all drums fell down and broken and I came out of that place and im finding myself on road where everyone is blind but all are pretending that they can see.

3. I saw again a dream on same night that two hens one is big other is small is under a tree one over the other standing. And I’m feeling both are safe under a tree.

4. I saw someone handover a baby in my hand and said u have to take care of him ALONE. And im thinking I will make this baby Namazi.

5. I saw I am connecting a wire containing the electricity I got shock but still I manage to tie up together. And then having Dates (Khajoor) and new dress is ready for me to go somewhere. Please advise me on it what should I understand from above... should I go ahead?

Shaadi ke mamale me maa baap se mashwarah karna

Q: Mufti saheb mera dusra sawaal ye hai ki jisse mai chahti hu meri shaadi hojai uski kuch months pehle shaadi huvi pr wo us shaadi se kuch khush ni hai naahi biwi k saath hain. Pata nahi kase uski wo shaadi huvi wo bht zyada preshaan hai. Agr wo biwi ko divorce dega wo gunnah mt hai kuch. humko 9 saal ikhatay huve hum ek dusre ko boht zyada chahte hain pr shaadi ni huvi.. hum apas mai shaadi karna chahte hain magr smj ni araha hain kase.. ap mehrbaani kr k help kijiye.. wo agr divorce usko dega tou wou humko badh dua nai deni chahie jis se hum do kbi khush nai rahege.. kuch madad kijiye kya kare hum.. boht preshaan h donu.

Consulting one's parents in regards to nikaah

Q: I'm a twenty two year old female, and I have met someone I am ready to get married to. Alhamdulillah he is an Aalim and a qari. My parents, on the other hand don't want to give it a chance. They refuse to even meet him. I don't know what to do because I just have positive thoughts about this. I acknowledge that meeting him out of nikkah was wrong but I just want to make it right. Please advice.