husband

Husband not controlling his gaze

Q: I need some advice. I find my husband does not control his gaze and this really hurts my feelings. If there's a woman, no matter what nationality he HAS to give one quick look. I feel really hurt and hatred towards him. Please advice me what I can read etc at that moment so I can overcome the grief and be rewarded in my difficulty instead.

Divorce and custody of child if husband is in jail

Q: I need guidance in this situation:

My husband is in jail for murder, and has not been incarcerated yet. It has been one year now and this is a cause of stress and pain to me. We have a child and I am getting no financial support from him nor his family. My child does not know that her father is in jail. I kept my child away from seeing him because I know how hurt my child would be. Due to this matter, am I able to get a divorce?

He is asking me to see his child, does he still have the right to see his child if he is in jail? If a divorce takes place, do I still have to bring my child to see him?

Fulfilling the rights of one's father

Q: We have been married for 42 years. Her father objected and still to this day refuses to speak to me despite me extending my hand many times. He did not attend the weddings of our children even though they went to ask him personally. My wife recently went to meet him against my wishes - she says she has a right because it's her father, is this allowed?

Taking a second wife

Q: If wife dont want to have sex for a long time even if I ask for it (I need a boy baby). She said that I can't. Hence if I go have sex with other women to relax my feelings, is this a sin or what can I do for sex? From my side I am giving how much I can.

Taking a second wife

Q: I am married for seven years and have two kids aged 5 years and one eleven months old daughter. Whenever I seek intercourse from my wife, she declines me nine out of ten times, because she is either busy, she is tired most of the times, she is not well and that she has to take care of the children (these are the reasons according to her) and I am left being frustrated and when this kind of reasons are given I cannot oppose it and ask her forcefully. Sometimes we have intercourse just once in many weeks. I do not know what to do about this situation because it creates lots of frustration sometimes. Please help me with this. Also my wife feels that two children are enough where as I do want another child. She has refused me and have warned me as well to go leave her if I want another child. What I can do is in this situation to convince her?

Wife giving zakaat to her husband

Q: My husband is in heavy debts. I have a good amount of gold given to me in my marriage as a gift by my parents, in-laws and relatives. The zakat on gold amounts to thousands of rupees. I am a housewife so whatever my husband gives me for my personal expenses is the only income I have. First year of my marriage I sold a few items of my gold and paid off the zakat to nearest relatives who were in need. Now I heard about this following hadith: Al-Bukhaari (1462) and Muslim (1000) from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him), that when the Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) commanded the women to give in charity, Zaynab the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood came to him and said: “O Prophet of Allaah, today you told us to give in charity. I have some jewellery and I want to give it in charity, but Ibn Mas’ood claims that he and his child are more deserving of my charity.” The Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “Ibn Mas’ood has spoken the truth. Your husband and child are more deserving of your charity.” So I ask you if you could clear my doubts regarding it accordingly. Can I give the amount my husband gave to me for my peesonal expenses as zakat back to my husband so he could pay off his debts?