marital problems

Q: I was a widow with three boys remarried due to financial problems. This man feeds well but he lies like anything. Hundred times he committed that he'll not lie and I am very much opposite to him. He won't give me anything in my hand and the rest of my money is also with him. He lies saying he took a property, but when I ask him to return my money he dodges. I am sick of his lies. He is a businessman. He loves food and spends a lot of money on hotels, parties charity but with me he won't make me feel secure. Please advise.

Q: My question to you is what can I do to help myself? My husband is having an extramarital affair. He doesn't choose to stop. I've asked him many times. The girl is also married waiting on a divorce. Her family knows but nobody wishes to do anything. My husband wants me to overlook it. He behaves nicely with me and says I shouldn't worry what he does outside the home. I don't find this to be right. I've waited a whole year, and am patiently praying for his hidayat. I feel like I've lost this battle. What should I do?

Q: I have been married for eight years with no children. My husband is flirting with women on the phone. He promises them marriage, he gives them money, he takes them out he even booked a hotel room for one of them. I tried talking to him about it but it's like he doesn't hear me. I asked for divorce in January. He refused to give it to me and he apologised and said he will stop but I should give him some time. It's been 9 months now, when I ask him about the progress of the matter he is not answering me. Now I'm thinking of moving out of our home but I don't know if it's a right thing to do. Please I need your help.

Q: My son got married two years back,which I was against but however he did not listen and proceded with the nikah. She is a girl that does not want to mix with the family, preventing my son from mixing with family and breaking family ties. She is troublesome and brings on petty issues that has no concrete reasoning just to bring on a fight. Her parents are very controlling in my son's marriage. Please can you give me a dua that she leaves our family to prevent further future problems and they separate.

Q: My brother lives with me but my wife wants to separate him. Although he is earning good enough for his needs but I don't want this. I love my brother so much and I want that he will continue with me at the same house. Also if I separate him definitely it will not sound good for my mother. What should I do in this? Case you please guide me.

Q: I am married age 43 wife age 36 and son age 13 . I was suffering from Leucoderma, also known as vitiligo, is a rare skin disease characterized by white spots and patches. Alhamdulillah , it is cured and no one was aware about this. After marriage I had told her that once I was suffering this disease . When my son was 2 years old he also suffered from this desease. Alhamdulillah, my son is also cured. But my wife is not ready for more kids. She is fearing that our next child may also suffer from this disease. I told her several times that all disease/situations are from Allah Ta'ala and he is only who give us cure. But she is still not ready. In this situation , should I force her for more children? We are having normal relation of husband and wife or I can do second marriage for more kids or I should make sabr?

Q: Does a wife have to obey her husband if he tells her she can't read istikhara? My husband insists that we live with his parents and unmarried brothers. I have told him that I cannot live there anymore as it is too stressful and besides my room and bathroom I have no privacy. Even when my room door is closed one can still hear us talking etc. From outside the room and even downstairs. We have 2 children and they both sleep in the room with us. My husband and I have been have many marital issues and I eventually left and went back to my parents home because I could not manage living there and I could not take his behavior towards me anymore. He told me that it is haram that I left. I wanted to read istikhara about whether I should go back but he has forbidden me to. Is this correct?