advice

Q: Is reminding someone of their past errors allowed in Islam especially when it was something haraam?

Q: Due to excessive masturbation since my childhood, i have become very weak sexually. Now my family wants me to get married. I also want to get married but I try to run from it because of my sexual weakness. I do not want to be embarassed in front of my wife. Please tell what should I do. Also, I also feel shy when I think of having sex with my wife. I try a lot to stop masturbation but I cannot.

Q: What should a husband do when his wife gets married without divorce?

Q: I am a homemaker in a joint family. From beginning of my marriage there was always a problem in both of my families because of money and property that should be given to me by my parents to in laws. I am a pregnant woman in my final trimester. I am facing a lot of stress from my house people and husband. My husband told me that you should decide between me and your family. I am in the worst situation of my life. I don't want to leave both of them. I want everyone in my family, my own family, my in laws family and my husband. Please suggest me a solution to this problem

Q: I'm married to my husband for the past 12 years. He was married before and has a daughter from the first wife. Their marriage lasted 10 years with court case and everything and the court granted them divorce. The custody of the daughter went to the mother. After 3 months of divorce my husband got married to me. The first wife took the child and never ever allowed a glance of her daughter to my husband. Alhamdullilah, Allah has blessed us with three kids and we were very content with our life. My husband's daughter who is 21 years old now called her dad one day saying she wants to come live with us. My husband, without informing me or asking my consent brings her home over nite. The reason she has come over is because she is having an affair with some guy, whom the mother dislikes. The reason for writing this letter is, I can't accept her. I feel my privacy has been invaded. My husband is giving me less attention, there are fights between us now and I have gone into depression. The daughter is not in contact with the mother now. I just want to know did my husband do a right thing to bring her home without my consent and why can't I accept her wholeheartdly? Why do I feel jealous?

Q: My mother n father never had a strong bond, most of the time they are fighting alot. Although my mother is very aggressive and tends to yell alot, my dad is physically and mentally abusive. At the moment we suspect he is cheating on her. Anyhow my question to you is, will it happen to me after marriage too? Will I go through the same torture as my mother? As a lesson for my father for treating someone else's daughter badly?

Q: My sister is 5 years old and she is a normal girl. At night when she sleeps after reciting 3 qul's and aitalkursi she wakes up at 2 am and starts crying and she is repeatedly saying allah hu akbar bismillah al rahman al rahim and after 10 to 15 minutes she gets normal again and goes back to sleep being exhausted and once she gets up she don't remember what all happend. This is happening with her from past one month.

Q: My husband’s mother is a Christian. She is a lesbian and lives with another woman and is not shy about their relationship. I don’t like this situation and don’t like going to visit especially with our children, however I know I cannot keep my husband away from his mother. My daughter is big and has questioned me on this relationship that she can see. I have advised her that this is wrong in every way possible and has reminded her of the story of Nabi Lut (alaihis salaam). Is it wrong of me not to want to visit or be seen in public with her? I don’t like being associated with her at all and this is difficult for my husband to understand because it is his mother. How can I make my husband understand because I feel very strongly about not being associated with her although I am because I am married to him. Can mufti give advice on this situation please.

Q: I am married to a gay man for 16 yrs. What should I do? I feel betrayed and confused. He is a good Chinese Muslim in my eyes but he just told me he that he has an urge for man but never intended to fufil it. I do not know what to do and why I'm tested like this.