advice

Protecting oneself from homosexuality

Q: I know in Islam we do not confess sins but I want to ask a question. Im incarcerated, I took my shahada in 2003 and lived Deen for about 6 years. Then I fell back into the evil I was previously on prior to taking my shahada, homosexuality. Lately I've been reading Quran and praying. Im still incarcerated and have been for 23 years. I want to rejoin the community but some know me when I was doing these evil acts and others know me when I was living deen. I do not want to be a fitnah to the brothers but want to do the right thing. Do I retake my shahada, join the community, or just continue to say my prayers in private?

Marital problems

Q: I am a divorced woman with 1 baby boy. My last marriage ended because my ex husband was draining me financially. He sent me a divorce as soon as our child was born. Life became very difficult and I was mentally upset for my child. I married again very quickly to the elder brother of a man my younger sister was engaged to. These people were also lower in status financially but we agreed to it because they were willing to take my son too. That man has turned out to be schizophrenic. He sleepwalks, tries to suffocate himself or me, assumes things and acts so scary that I feel concerned for our safety. He beats me, abuses me, tries to scare my son badly. I often find my son scratched in various places and scared. I am expecting another child now. He is using me entirely for money, treats me like a servant even though I am heavily pregnant and cant walk. I pay the bills, grocery. I even leave my kid with my sister sometimes because I feel too scared for what he witnesses. People of our society will kill me for another divorce and he is always threatning me with it. His entire family is like this and they want to beat me to the ground. They wont let me end my sisters engagement unless I want a divorce again. I am so badly stuck and I am always so afraid in his company. My son has also told me in broken language that he touches his private parts. Please help me! I am extremely worried and scared.

Getting married to please one's uncle

Q: My husbands uncle asked him to marry his cousin. She lives in Kenya and we live in the US. I am okay with it but my husband is telling me that he feels like he is deceiving her because he doesnt think he can take the responsibility but he doesnt want to get his uncle mad and he regrets accepting it. What I want to know is, is it wrong for me to make dua saying "Allah, if he cant take the responsibility, may Allah not make the marriage happen" because I dont want the girl in sadness because she is my sister? I dont want her to miss the chance of having someone that will love her and not be forced because the father wanted?

Pichle gunaaho se taubah karna

Q: Ma jawan hoty hi kuch glat aadat main mubtla ho gya aur kye saal to is trah zindgi guzarta raha, mgr mjy ab ahsaas honya ha k ye sb to mri hony wali b.v ki ammanat thi jis main ma khiyanat kr betha hon. Main tooba krna chahta hon, meharbani farma kr meri rehnumaye farmayen k meri ye galti meri hony wali b.v aur Allah maaf kr dain. Ma apny gunahon pr bohat shirminda hon. Is waqt meri umir 27 sal ha aur ma abi gair-shadi shuda hon. Shadi ka soch kr apni kheyanat yaad aati ha to sochta hon shadi hi na karon. Meri rehnumaye farmayen.

Logo ke saaamne choti mehsoos hona

Q: Mujhe na jane kya ho gayi hai jab bhi bohot logo ke saath rehti hoon tab sab ke saamne mujhe khudko bohot choti mehsus hoti hai. Ugly mehsus hoti hai. Aisi kyu hoti hai? Asal mai sab log mere husband ko pasand karte hai. Mujhe uski kabil nahi samajhte. Mai bhir mai tanhayyi mehsus karti hoon. Mujhe kuch saal se iss problem hai. Mai iss rog se chutkara pana chahti hoon.

Haraam relationship

Q: I really need advice on what to do. I have a partner whom I love very much. We have a child together who is 7 years old but my problem is my partner never married me because he is married to someone and it was an arranged marriage they also have kids together, but his wife does not know about me and my son neither does his mother know. Years ago his mom came to know and separated us but he always came back. I cannot be with anyone else because I love this man and I have given him myself completely. But I also want too do things the right way because I believe Allah Ta'ala will want the same but he is so scared to tell his family about me and my son and to make things right. How long can I live with this of not being married to him because it's haraam and I just want things to be right. He does everything for me and our son and he does truly love us but how can we make this any better?

Giving up masturbation

Q: I am a 26 years old Male. I have a very bad habit of Masturbation. At night when I got to sleep, bad thoughts come into my mind, and then I start to think about girls. It induces me to masturbate and as a result semen is ejaculated. I want to stop this bad habit. Please help me out. I am very much tensed. I also make tawba to Allah Ta'ala but then again this thing happens. Don't know what to do. Please guide me. Is this due to this bad habit my Duas sometimes are not answered?