advice

Q: My wife has left me to live with her boyfriend but we still talk and I still love her. Should I give her a divorce or try and get back with her?

Q: I am an 18 year old student and a practising Muslimah. But I committed a sin few days ago. I got distracted to a sexual website and made a chat. The guys asked me for pictures of the chest and I gave it. After sending it I realised how big sin I committed. I felt very bad and cried for forgiveness. Because I want Allah to trust me again and I can be pure again. I never did anything like this. But now I feel that I'm not a good person. Will Allah Ta'ala forgive me? I promised myself not to go this way ever. I dont want Allah or my parents to be ashamed on the Day of Judgement in front of Shaytan. I had a dream of making them proud. What should I do to get away from the punishment? I am scared of Allah.

Q: My question is related to the relation of mine with my father as it is getting worse day by day. I am 22 years old. We belong to a middle class family and about 4 years ago we bought internet connection. My father is 56 years old now and when we bought the internet connection I was 18 and my father was 52. One day I saw my father watching porn on the internet and for me it was so heart breaking that I got shocked with the kind of mentality my father has. For some time I stayed silent that he might change his habits and for that I gave him some signals that I am aware of what he is doing when alone and at that time my sisters age was 12 years. I was more concerned that she might see him doing all this stuff and just few days later I saw my father was busy watching porn while my sister was standing behind him. On that particular day I broke my silence and told my mom about the whole incident. She talked to him and my father rejected my allegations upon him. This thing continued for about one year and he was losing his respect in my eyes. Last year we connected our tv set to cable and now he just watches tv, some movies and songs with bad dance. I dont like this also but I am silent as it is somehow better than what he was used to do. What I want to say is that he is stubborn and I do not respect him the same way like I used to or you can say that he has lost his respect. Our tv set is in front of my bed and I dont want him to sit on my bed when I am around, not because I do not respect him but because he used to sit in front of tv every time when he is free and for hours and I want my space on my bed because our house is small.

My question is that what should I do according to Islam and can I respect him or change him? Also, he has the habit of talking in loud voice and we hardly talk to eachother daily as my other relatives talk to their fathers.

Q: I live in Saudi Arabia and halaaat of Saudi Arabia are not good. Most Pakistanis and Indians are going to their countrys and one of my friends came to me that and said that we should go to USA. I said ok I will tell you my procedure how to visit visa so we were discussing about how to make file and interview in Saudi Arabia will be asked so other beards people were with me and they dislike me that why I sending them to America . Do u know what they did with us i can feel that they were disappointed at me that I am favour . So I clear them that it is not sin to go America . They are going for earning money . I hope u understand what they meant . That america all are dushman and we should not go there and they were saying me that u saying like this . I just wana know should I help them out to send USA or stop it . As You are mufti and better know then us . I am jahal and learner person .

Q: I have undergone a situation in my life. I want you to interpret, and where possible comment on it and make dua.

A few months back two proposals came to my door at the same time. One proposal was of the boy who is my teacher and likes me. He sent his mother to see me. The other one was of a random boy who lives nearby. His mother also came to see me. Coincidently, they both arrived at the same time and I was sitting in front of both. These two ladies were actually relatives and knew each other. They were also talking to each other over other worldly things. They both left. After a few months, the other lady (not my teacher's mother) came to officially approve the rishta and asked for our approval. My mother did istikhara for this proposal and did not see anything on the first day. The next day she did the same istikhara procedure and after fajr prayers she saw that the boy with whom I am supposed to get engaged was hugging me but deep in heart he knew I did not love him and I love my teacher (whose mother came to see me that day in front of his mother). My mother was confused. Therefore, she asked a learned person to do istikhara on our behalf and he said that istikhara was satisfactory and that we may proceed. We accepted the proposal and said yes in a few days. In this time, my teacher's proposal did not show any progress. A small scale engagement took place and we made a bond with each other, just after this, things began to get worse. My in laws behaved well but by all their doings began to show that they have no interest in us. My mother in law did not use to call me and on the eid day, did not bother to call and say eid mubarak to me. We followed all the customs and did all the good with them but their response was never satisfactory. She used to talk well, asked us if we can sit for the wedding date but never sat. Whatever we gifted to them was unused. As if they knew they cannot continue and did not want to keep us happy. We tried ignoring until a few days back she called me to her house for dinner and after a few days, my father in law came to my dad and said our boy does not want to marry. He wanted to break and that day everything was over.

Mufti sahab I was not wrong. I was very sincere with these people. I dont know what happened with me in this whole time. After years of prayers, I was blessed with a proposal returning and things proceeding but ultimately I am back where I was. I want you to please look at my situation if you can find any connection of this happening with previous event or my mother's dream. And please make some dua for my future.

Q: I have a family wedding where I know there will be a mixed gathering and music. I spoke to the family member and asked to be excused from the wedding but in return she said she will be upset and will never forget I did not attend her daughters wedding and cannot excuse me from attending. I explained the only reason for not attending is due to fear of sin and to abide by what Allah Ta'ala has commanded. From our conversation I believe she will no longer have anything to do with me if I do not attend. This situation is causing me great anxiety. On one hand I do not want Allah Ta'ala to be displeased with me and on the other I do not want the family member to break ties either, what do I do? 

Q: My mother sold her house without asking me and my wife. Suddenly we got shock that she sold house. My wife sent a whatsapp massage to my sister and cursed all. One of my brother' s wife got naraz. When we were going to Umrah we came to know she was naraz with us. My wife called for sorry. She forgave but broke the relation and told she will not keep any relation....in fact they sold house without asking us....my wife became emotional and cursed them. Now after three years we come to our country they did not come to pick at airport we already informed them ....did not try to meet. In fact we went to their door but did not call us. In fact I invited them on Eid breakfast but my brother's wife did not come. My brother came but did not eat any thing. Please guide me according to Islam. We want to keep the relation but they did not take a single step. Please guide us who is sinner?