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Q: If husband left his wife and kids without any kind of support (deeni and dunyawi) after came back 20 months and still not support. But he wants to meet his wife only for sexual meet and wife refused him bcz the older childs doesnt want to accept again his father to enter home (bcz his badest behaviour with his family) and he came to Canada just to pick them up his mother father and go back home after few months. In this condition if wife refused to sexual contact his husband,so any sin to the wife?

Q: I am a Muslim woman and I would like to know in Islam if a father hits his daughter who is married without valid reason and my husband tells him to stop with respect and he then hits my husband and uses excessive vulgar languages in the open public.

I, the daughter have held my dads clothes to stop him from going to hit my husband but he continued to slap me wildly infront of many people.

He does not like my husband because my husband is not well to do and is very simple and calm . He has a quite nature and never argues with my parents from the time I have been married . On a daily basis my father insults him tries to put him down infront of other people uses languages to him infront of me all because in life my dad out of his own will had paid for my hospital bills. But that was on his own will as my husband could not afford it and I have agreed that he couldn't afford a private hospital rather government which I was very happy to go to.

He insults my husbands parents and put them to value infront of many people . He shows off to people what my husbands parents position is and disgraces them all the time .

My father is very nice but his attitude and pride of money is very bad . If he pays anything out of his own will for me or my children he will insult and tell the public he paid for that and he says it in such a way that makes my husband down in the public eye.

I am a very blessed woman to have such a great husband . Allah has given me the best man as my partner and I dislike when I see him getting insulted . I cannot take it anymore and I do not know what to do . The only thing I have asked my father is to guide my husband in business but my father rules his life and wants to fight for everything.

Q: I am struggling with this issue for some time and would like to receive some good advice inshallah.

I have met a good Muslim girl (as is common these days) and wish to pursue a halaal relationship with her. Her parents are aware of me, accept me and are very welcoming of the idea. However, my parents are not aware of the extent of my relationship with her. After a brief conversation I had (regarding marriage, not regarding the girl) with them, they have two issues.

1. We are a Pakistani family and the girl is from a South African family. They are concerned regarding the effects of the difference in culture on our household. They are typical joint family people while the girl and I myself are not too fond of that idea. Nonetheless, the issue is that they do not prefer to marry outside culture, while I disagree as I believe the requirement to be Muslim, not Pakistani. Regardless of that I have spent 8 years of my 22-year life in South Africa and as such am a part of this culture as much as I am a part of Pakistani culture.

2. They do not want to even initiate a conversation about marriage until I have graduated and have a stable job. I completely agree with the idea, that they want me to be able to support and provide for her and I will accept no exception. However, that will take around 2-3 years and until then our relationship will either be haraam or non-existent. The girl's family will not accept me just dating her for the next 3 years and Islamically this is wrong also. I wish to know what to do about this situation.

Lastly, if I were to approach my parents with the idea of Nikaah, what would be the best and safest way to go about doing this. 

Q: My husband has a friend thats always intruding, but my husband does not see this as wrong and its causing problems in our marriage, what do I do?

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a Hindu married woman. This affair is going on for a while now and she travels alot. He has changed and hits me and denies it. He even threw me out but doesn't want to break this haraam relationship. I have a son 11 years old and we are married for 20 years. I need a dua to destroy this enemy.