advice

Allah Ta'ala ki rahmat se mayoos ne hona

Q: My husband is very ill and the doctor has said that he has very less time to live. Being a Muslim me and my family have trust in Allah and we are praying a lot and making dua for his long and healthy life. Allah ki zaat se mayus nhi ho sakte. Seeking help from Allah.. pr waswase atae hai ki shayad kch thek na ho.. Imaan pe layam hun ar Allah se shifa ki dua krti hun pr kabhi kabhi dil bht bechain hota hai. Allah se dua krti hun ki vo koi ishara de ki uski madad hai mere sath.. Ap btayen ki kya kru.. waswase imaan kamzor krne lagte hai jabki mai apne Allah pe yakeen rkhte hue is baat pe yakeen rkhti hun ki vo mere shauhar ko shifa zrur dega kyuki vo hi zindagi ar maut ka malik hai.

Inviting a Christian to Islam

Q: I invited a Christian business aquaintence to Islam. Below is his reply, how do I answer him?

"Jesus appears more than Muhammad in the Quran. Find out why and tell me. Who made the blind see and the lame walk in the Quran? If you give me an honest answer. I will embrace Islam. Peace be with you."

Shaadi se pehle haraam ta'alluq

Q: Men kuch sawal puchna chahte hn per muje nae maloom kahan jaon, kis se puchun. Ya kya karun. Ajeeb muskil men hn, kuch samajh nae aata. Jab men bohat choti the to mere cousin ne khelne ke bahane muje room men band kar lia tha aur touch krne ke koshish k.. Balke honton ko kia..men bohat ro rahe the, WO muje jane nae de raha tha. Phr mama aa geye darwaze per aur usku door open Karna perha, mama ne muje dekhte he marna start kar dia aur kaha ke kya kar rahe the etc.but mene to bohat koshish k the us se baghne k per WO mujse kafi bara tha... Ab men 26 saal k hn. Magar aj b takleef hoti ha ke kisi ne mera sath nae dia.muje nae pata us cousin ne mere sath rape kia ya nae magar dar lagta ha ke kehe Allah muje saza na den. Men mama se hamesha darte rahe..ek boy se pyar kar beathe, sucha shadi karen g.mama ko pata chal gea, WO samjhi men gandi hn, WO rone lage.mene unku chup karwane k koshish k per kahne lage acha hota tm mar jate..men bohat dukhi ho geye. Mene mama ka dil rakhne ko Quran pak pe kasam khai ke men ayenda aesa nae karun g..mama ne kaha ke Facebook p account nae banao g.ab muje ek account k zarurat ha.men kya karun?mere madad Karen.mera koe nae siwaye Allah k. Baki mujse nafrat krte hen. Men Allah ko naraz nae kar sakte. Mama ne bohat ajeeb kasam uthwai..kafi batun ka kaha ke nae karo g.muje to yad b nae.Bohat preshan hn. Har wakat suicide ka suchte hn.

Fear of being unable to satisfy one's wife

Q: I am a male, 26 years old and newly married (7months). My wife and I are very good humans with average Islamic knowledge but very happy. I provide almost every common thing she needs and she is very happy in today's era, a car, house, clothes, food hangout, movies etc. very good and my parents are really happy with her. I have been a a bad human before and only Allah can forgive for the sins but I hate the past and very happy with present and looking for a better future.. Since I have had multiple sexual relations before and everything, I don't have a high sex drive anymore and my wife is pretty much a virgin as I know her family background and since I know women alot, I can tell that after living for 7 months with her... The thing is she is not interested in sex and because I have done so much bad in my past I also feel fine and I am never upset or sad when she gives me excuse if I try... But I am just scared since I want to be a nice Muslim. If this is my duty to satisfy her or if angels or Allah is angry at her bcz of me? I don't want sex from her if she cannot give me and I want her to go to heaven and that's why even if I have 1% sad feeling about sex I just say Allah I am happy and not upset with her I swear dont be angry on. But on my part I am scared if she curse me for not giving her sex? Since as I know women well but in this case by grace of Allah I am very nice husband overall so I have no doubt she is happy with everything else also the other thing I am scared is if she doesn't find me attractive? Since I'm not a handsome guy compare to average but women do get attached with guys if together so that shouldn't be issue.. My question is is it ok if we r happy and we don't sex at all or is it a must to have sex also i dont want kids now aswell so sex for pleasure is the only thing I'm worried about her the most.

Mother having an affair

Q: My mom had an affair...please help...I belong to a pretty religious family...We family members love eachother alot...we have heart to heart connection...but we are facing money problems from alot of time as my father dont undrstand about my mother's and his daughters daily needs. My mom starting borrowing money from people.. I agree my father is irresponsible towards our financial needs but he is a very good father and husband.. He loves my mom alot and he doesn't have any bad habbits...but he doesn't give her enough of money and he mistreated her verbally..he doesn't give her enough money because we have alot of financial problems .. my mom and dad have suffered alot...my mom strived hard to be a good wife but the situation became worst when we had no money and she had to borrow money from a man...whom she loved before marriage...as time passed she started texting and meeting him and they fell in love again...she now loves him alott...The relationship might be sexual too...but my mom is very religious and cries alot during namaz and loves my father too..but i just cant accept that my mom is having this kind of relationship with someone..It makes me cry everytime..It feels so bad to see her doing all this harram stuff...my heart breaks...I am not able to tolerate it anymore...my father trust's her alot...but she doesn't find enough of love in him...So she started falling for that man again...I don't know how to face all this anymore..if I ask her, all she says is that he is her friend...and the thing is I cant even force her or tell her about it..because she loves that man alot and she might even try to harm herself if something happens as she has suffered alot about this money problem, debts and all....What should I do?

Marital problems

Q: I am married to someone whos already married. He promised to give me the same in due time. He hasn't told her because shes got 3 kids and shes gonna leave and doesnt want to lose his kids. He opresses me now after 2 years of sticking by him. He says that he doesnt even know if our nikah is proper when it is. He also says that I'm not his wife. I am really angry and I want to tell the first wife, but I dont know if I should. Now he is telling me that he doesnt want it anymore because his family, his dad and sisters, mum has found out. What do I do?