advice

Q: I have scrupulosity religious ocd which gets me too much horrible Islamic related thoughts. So im not able to do anthng, not even rest. Now I got in trouble by masturbtion. I did once and now im not able to stop. My thoughts comes like if i didnt do again the sin im going aginst my religion. I knw its not true or i dont want to do bt im not getng my mind free nd im not able to do anithng salh pryer etc. im stuck with these and if i dont do the sin again upto some certain no or date like tht i may not getback to norml.wht i do.these thoughts are not ignored by me even i wnt or i try.it still comes. What do I do?

Q: If I was ready to commit a sin even it is shirk, does that mean that I comitted shirk ? Will that sin be shirk if I do it again? If I am doing something with the doubt whether it's shirk or not does that mean I comit shirk ? If I dont stop doing a thing with doubt that it might be shirk .. does that mean am committing shirk ? What can do for over come this ?? Is that mean I comit shirk and is it shirk to do that thing again or have some other way to ask forgiveness and do as normal sin ? Will Allah forgive me if I continue this sin and think as normal sin or will it be considered as shirk if I do these sin ? These are not important than Allah so what should I do ?

Q: It was maghrib time and azaan was calling and I don't know who was calling the azaan but I had some thought going through my head about this person, someone was talking about him the other day and was saying he is (addar magaj) thats in gujrati. I don't no exact meaning in English but something about brain. He does what he wants to do. Whatever is in his head, he does what ever he wishes to do. Alhumdulillah, he is a very pious person. So azaan was calling and I dont know if he was doing azaan because he does sometimes azaan now in my mind comes his name and that he is (addar magaj ) and azaan was calling, is it kufr? I didnt say it with mouth. I wont call him so I dont really like to listen to things about people but I am worried if it is kufr. Is my nikah valid? Im not sure who was giving azaan. If it was him and that comes in my mind, is my nikah valid? I repeated the kalimah as well. I didnt say it with my mouth but now Im not sure if I said it with my mouth. Im mostly sure I didnt say it with mouth. Is my nikah valid? Is it kufr?

Q: Kindly advise me on the following as well as how I should go about setting up a trust.

1. I have a few properties which I wish to make waqf and wish to have full control of. I wish to distribute funds (rental) to charitable institutions, but if need be, so then I should be able to utilize the funds for myself (for instance, I must be able to use the funds for myself in certain months and for distribution in certain months certain months). On my demise, the trustees should take full control and use it fully for charity.

2. Will I be able to sell the property should I feel the need? For example, if property A is not performing well, could I dispose of it and use the funds to purchase property B? In this case, will property B automatically become waqf or will it be necessary for me to start the process all over again?

3. In the event of my demise, what control will the trustees have? Will they be able to sell and buy more properties in the benefit of the waqf?

4. Is it necessary to give the waqf a name because I like to remain anonymous? If it is necessary to give the trust a name, I request that would you kindly suggest a name for me?

Q: I am just worried and getting anxiety worrying and thinking if:

1. If my nikah is valid with my husband. Alhumdulillah we are so happy but the thought comes that, did your husband ever said divorce? I never heard him say it.

2. If hurmate musaahara took place anytime? If my dad's nikah is valid? I'm just worring and thinking that suppose hurmate musaahara took place. Supposed my dad's nikah is not valid. Suppose my nikah is not valid. I'm so happy masha allah with my husband but these thoughts come.

3. I am not sure if sure hurmate musaahara took place. I am getting these thoughts that supposed it was lust when I shook my sisters hand or my husband's. Those thoughts don't come only when my father touched or shakes my hand or touch me.

4. Now in my mind I think that hurmate musaahara happened when some feeling comes in your vagina or that liquid comes out when you are ready for sex. So when my dad shakes my hand I think that if something is happening in my vagina, even before my father shakes my hand, I am scared.

5. Now I'm also worried and I'm getting thoughts about my Imaan. I listen to bayaans and I keep reading the kalimah. I say I am a Muslim. I am not feeling in my heart who I was before. Is it kufr to say so? Is my nikah valid? Thoughts of hadith, Islam, Quraan and Allah comes in my mind. I know Islam is a true religion but I'm not feeling the sukoon that I get thoughts on religion. When I listen to a bayan and listen to stories of sahaba and about our prophet and what he went through for us, I feel it in my heart and I don't have the feeling in my heart. I keep reading the Kalimah and i get thoughta that am I a Muslim? I say to myself yes I am a muslim. Please help me and make dua for me. Allah keep me steadfast on deen n make me die with Imaan.

Q: I have often heard: "Perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you and hate a thing and it is good for you..."

I am very confused about this. Say, if we used the example of a person that we love and ask Allah for but do not get to be with them because they are bad for us. If we end up with who is good for us will we still not love them as much as we loved the initial person? Will we have to convince ourselves to like them by telling ourselves that this is good for us for reasons we don't know? Being human, won't there be the initial disappointment of not getting who we wanted? They say in time you will come to see in what ways they were better for you but won't you be miserable up until that time by being with someone you didn't love as much?

I've also heard that you get from Allah what you expect from him but then at the same time they say that you should not set your heart on anything or you could be disappointed and that you should acknowledge a possibility of not getting it .

They say that dua can change taqdeer but only if what you make dua for is good for you, but what if your dua is that it should be good for you?

Q: My question is that my son is married and is living in another town which is half way between us and his in laws. He wants to move back to where we are living but his wife's does not want to move as she feels that she has a duty to live near her parents as she is the oldest and has no brothers. In Islam, should she obey her husband as to where he wants to live and accept it or does she have any other rights? There is no restriction to her as she is free to meet her parents as she wishes.

Q: We are 4-5 ladies having taleem weekly in a small town. We read from Fazail e amal and sunnah kitaab, questions and answers (those which we cannot answer, we answer the following week). Ladies want us to talk also about akhlaaq, death, etc. Kindly recommend kitaabs we can use and also provide correct format of having taleem and any other things we can discuss. Also duaa to be recited at ending of taleem.

Q: I'm female and married. Right now I'm passing through difficult times and this is between my parents. My father is not speaking to my mother and this happens every six months on such small things. I have 2 younger sisters. We never interrupted between them fearing that they might get separated.  He is not staying with them and threatening my mother that he can marry any women if he can.