haraam relationship

Q: My question to you is what can I do to help myself? My husband is having an extramarital affair. He doesn't choose to stop. I've asked him many times. The girl is also married waiting on a divorce. Her family knows but nobody wishes to do anything. My husband wants me to overlook it. He behaves nicely with me and says I shouldn't worry what he does outside the home. I don't find this to be right. I've waited a whole year, and am patiently praying for his hidayat. I feel like I've lost this battle. What should I do?

Q: I have been married for eight years with no children. My husband is flirting with women on the phone. He promises them marriage, he gives them money, he takes them out he even booked a hotel room for one of them. I tried talking to him about it but it's like he doesn't hear me. I asked for divorce in January. He refused to give it to me and he apologised and said he will stop but I should give him some time. It's been 9 months now, when I ask him about the progress of the matter he is not answering me. Now I'm thinking of moving out of our home but I don't know if it's a right thing to do. Please I need your help.

Q: I gave my wife 3 talaaqs 9 years ago. We have two daughters who were 2 and 4 years at the time. First talaaq was given while my in laws were living with us. We got into a very bad argument (screaming and shouting) and I wanted to leave the house but my father in law insisted that I give her talaaq. Unfortunately I did not know much about rules of talaaq back then.We were apart for 6-7 months but reconciled and made nikkah again. At this time my then wife was looking after and supporting her parents as they were out of work, which put a lot of strain on our relationship. We had another disagreement a few months later and I consequently issued her with another talaaq and while issuing her with the second one she insisted that I give her a third talaaq. My wife was a very stubborn woman and while I am not short tempered if I do get angry I "snap". At this stage I became so enraged that I issued her with the third and final talaaq. The third talaaq was issued out of pure rage and this is something that I regret to this day. As stated before it is now 9 years later and neither myself or she has been with anyone else. For the past 9 years it seems as if we have have grown closer to one another (without her parents involvement as they have moved to Cape Town). I would like to know if there is any chance that we can reconcile and get married again? A few days ago she confessed that she still loves me and I in turn also confessed that I still love her. At the time I did not know the implications or conditions of talaaq and have asked Allah for forgiveness as I realize what I did was wrong.