family ties

Q: I am a teenager and my problem is that my maternal aunt doesn't love me. She loves my other cousins. She cares for them and shows affection towards them but she has no feelings for me. She shows little or no affection towards me. She does not like to talk to me. She gets annoyed if I sit beside her. I know that my maternal aunt has the same status as my mother and I try to uphold the ties of kinship but I feel so embarrassed by her behaviour. Please tell me what to do.

Q: I want to ask a question about my mother. Recently my father died from heart attack. My mother is in iddat right now and my relatives like my chacha, my dadi, phopo and taya (elder brother of my father) everyone is talking bad about my mother and they don't want to continue the relation with my mother but they want me to be with them. They are continuously becoming involved in our personal matters. Like I want to work job but they are forcing me to stay at home and do what they want me to do. I just want to know that is it important for me and my mother to listen to them after their bad behaviour? Do we have to continue the relation and do whatever they say?