Marital Issues

Q: My daughter who was 16 years was married to a relative. A few months into the marriage the husband seemed to have lost interest in the marriage and stopped talking to her and stopped spending time with her my wife and daughter made numerous attempts to reconcile the marriage but to no avail as the parents of the boy seemed to manage the situation from a distance and left all decisions to their son with very little input we even attempted the intervention of the jamiaat but they also failed to get any response from the boy who seemed completely disinterested in the marriage in conversations with the boys parents we were always asked for more time which we agreed to on numerous occasions however the boy than started flirting with other family females and many of the youngsters from the in-laws side started a social media campaign belittling and mocking my daughter this prompted us to ask the parents of the the boy to give her a divorce as all attempts to reconcile was fruitless as their son was not making any attempts to reconcile and encouraging family members to denigrate his wife that is my daughter his response was that he wanted to punish her after deliberations with the jamiaat and our family elders we asked for the divorce a few days later the parents of the boy dropped of a letter of divorce so my question to you is that the marriage which lasted for only +- three months before which and also during that many promises were made to her like giving her a monthly allowance,paying her medical bills,etc she even used her own money to go for mini breaks and paying for a holiday in advance which they they planned to go can she claim all the money spent on all the above and also the money spent on the wedding which in any case was a small affair. Please give advice and opinion.

Q: My qustion is about my brother inlaw: He is 23 years old and I am 27. My husband works 7 days a week and he comes home late night. On Sundays and in the mornings and evenings I am alone with my brother inlaw. We live in uk and have just one bedroom and living room where he sleeps. My problem is I am really not happy about sharing my life with him. I don't trust him and life is hard since I have to cover self while cooking, going to bathroom, etc. I have spoke to my husband about it but he doesn't care. My brother inlaw lives here illegally and he has got the option to live somewhere else as well by his own, the only difference will be that has to pay his own rent. My husband don't want that because he is after saving as much as money as he can. I feel angry and especially that I can't have my privacy and his brother finds out everything I won't like to tell him and so my in-laws through him. In last time me and my husband are having lots of arguments and he even gave me one talaq for no reason  because we had an argument on his brother. Now my question is: is it wrong in Islam if I don't want to live with my brother in-law? My husband spends more time with him then with me. I feel upset. Is not my rights bigger then his brother? Shouldnt he be more with me? I love my husband but I feel so much neglected that I'll say I'll leave him. My other questions is: What if I complain to the home office anonymously if it's allowed in Islam. I feel wrong to do so since we paid 7000£ for his brother to get here and I thought it'll be good so my husband will have some support, but I didn't know he'll live with us.

Q: I am the only child of my mother, married with two kids alhamdulillah. But recently things are not going well for me. I'm not in a position to provide for my mother and wife at the same time and this is eating me up. I understand very well both have rights upon me but my earnings are very little! It's like choosing my wife over my mother.

Q: I am very troubled. My husband's Iman is already weak. Once a month we travel to Johannesburg so that I can visit my parents. My husband's parents have a flat here in jhb so we stay there. I have noticed now that in the flat that was furnished buy our in-laws that there is a frame with "Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatu" writtn in arabic. Its hanging in our kitchen. The thing is the kitchen and lounge is all in one, like its bascially 1 room. And my husband watches tv in the lounge. So basically the frame is exposed to the tv and the frame obviously has Allahs name on it. Its not my flat so I can't remove it. And A am afraid to tell my husband incase he says im just being parinode and wont listen. Which would be worse because now I think he doesn't notice. What should I do?

Q: Please advise me. My husband and I are having many marital problems for the past +- 1 & 1/2 years. It's mainly because of my husband's phone. I spoke to him on many occasions but he doesn't want to change. He doesn't show love to me as well. At the moment we are not on talking terms. We only speak what is necessary. The hadith that mentions something to the effect, that the angels curse a woman whose husband is displeased with her and her ibaadah is not accepted, will I fall under this hadith? I am very worried, if my ibaadah is not accepted then how will my duas,tilaawat etc benefit me? Can Mufti Saheb please advise me.

Q: I need a dua to make my husband listen to me and never let anyone come between us. To free our marriage from divorce.

Q: We live with my in-laws. While I was away this weekend my husband let his 25 year old brother use our personal bathroom. There are 6 other bathrooms in the house. My husband knows that I do not like to share a bathroom. Do my in laws need permission to enter into my personal area, or his my husbands permission enough?

Q: I am 25 (male) from a well-off family and presently pursuing PhD in earth sciences with a decent fellowship but you know the environment here at the university not very pious (there is co-education in the university) and one finds it very difficult to control his emotions. Nikkah seems to be the best solution to prevent oneself in such a dirty environment but the problem is that I am not able to communicate the same to my parents. Now I request you you if you could spent some moments of your precious time to suggest me how to approach my parents for the same. I am ready to marry any girl from any nationality unless she is a pious and practicing Muslim.

Q: If my husband speaks to his female cousins or friends just to keep a good relation and friendly chat but I don't like it and I don't like such conversation. What should my husband do as he thinks I am over possessive and he is not doing anything wrong.

Q: I like one girl. I met her three months back. I did istikhara at the starting and now after three months my parents went to there place and after that they ask our well know mufti to tell us if it is good for us or not. We gave him the names of both families and he said its not good for you but I love her. Can I go against this decision or not? Please help me. We have to inform them tomorrow about our decision.