Marital Issues

Q: My husband gives me R1000 a month just for groceries and at the end of the month I give him R1000 to pay for our water account, is that right? He doesn't give me any other money.

Q: I am a female 23 years of age. In my life there is a boy I want to marry with good intentions. Right now he is responsible to look after his family as he doesn't have father. My parents are insisting with me to do marriage with another person for which I am not ready at all. I have done istekhara so many times its positive always. But the condition of life is too tough now either to listen my parents or wait for the person whom i like. He likes me too. I again did istekhara asking Allah Ta'ala to guide me either to wait or move with other proposal. Subhan Allah I have dreamt that I should wait for the guy which was a clear indication from Allah Ta'ala. Please suggest me what should I do according to this situation after seeing istekhara. An early reply would be apprecitated. The boy I like he is now trying for a job so it may take some 2 or 3 years till he completes his responsibility. Should I take a decision based on istikhara? What should I do please suggest me something better.

Q: I hope you are fine Insha Allah. My question is about my husband. I have three kids and Alhamdulilah 7 years of marriage. I am a muslim Alhamdulilah, my husband also belongs to muslim family. After marriage I have come to know that he doesn't like Islam. Whnever I talk related to islam he gets annoyed and says to me you can take divorce. My question is in this situation I have to leave my husband? I am also a mother of 3 small kids. I waited 7 years that Insha Allah Allah give him hadayat. According to Islam is thiss ok to live with that person who didn't respect Islam. I hope you will understand my question and waiting for your reply.

Q: I am very worried. I have been married for four and half years. Recently my husband has been talking about separation and does not want to come home. I have tried talking to him but he does not say anything. Please advise.

Q: My wife makes my seven year old child sleep with her daily for the last two years. I keep asking her to not to make him sleep in my place but she ignores this. Due to this situation, we are only able to get intimate once every two months. Please tell us your recommendation for us.

Q: I am in a terrible situation. I'm a widow for 13 years and I am still living with my in-laws. Mother in law doesn't speak to me and now won't eat my food after 26 years. I overlook it as she is old. On the other hand I have my son recently married whose wife doesn't want him to keep with me and calls him mothers child and fights with him all the time. Please guide me.

Q: I have asked you about my personal problem. Now tell me what should we do. We are five sisters. Our father is a poor man. My elder sister's husband did a second marriage and after that at least 3 year he didn't go to my sister. She has three children in 15 years of marriage. My second elder sister is married for 10 years and her husband is not able to fulfil a husbands duties as well as financial needs. My third elder sister's husband is very well off but after 7 years of marriage he is also not able to fulfil her rights. My marriage is in it's third year but my husband's parents don't let me live with him for my whole life permanently nor does he himself want to take me with him. However, he can afford it easily abroad. He just came for 6 month in these 3 years. My younger sister is overage and my parents still didn't find her a soul mate. Please you tell me what should we all sister do. We are human, have emotions, can't take divorce. What has Allah revealed for such conditions? Should we just make sabar?

Q: I love a person and I wish to marry him. Kindly please make istakhara for me if he is the right person or not.

Q: What should the husband do if he is forced to go with his mother for hajj as he is the only available mahram for her as his father refuses to accompany her? The husband has a wife and kids and will have to leave them alone. What could be done to alleviate this situation as its causing tension as the wife does not have any family close by. Also, the husband is only doing it because of his mother, and another thing is that the father will be paying for the costs, so he will be sending them whilst himself hasn't fulfilled his fardh duty, its unnecessary trouble between husband and wife. please help.