Marital Issues

Q: I have a very unusual question. I am married and alhumdullilah I am blessed with 2 sons. A few years ago my dad passed away in an accident and my mom was young so we decided to get her married and we did. But her husband was not of good character and he left her after two months and my Mom came back to my house. It's more than 3 years now he did not contact her but at the same time he is not giving her divorce. We asked so many times but he always refused it. Now we have another man who wanted her to get married to him but he is not giving divorce. We can't go to court because of some legal issues. So in that case what does Islam say about women in this situation?

Q: I feel as if my husband is too strict with me. Before he wasn't like this when we got married but now he stops me from a lot of things. I've never had to live a life with so many restrictions. It's very hard but I listen to my husband in everything. But nowadays I just feel like running away from everything. I have locked up everything inside me and I feel trapped. I can't go anywhere. He has become too Islamic. I just don't know what to do. I'm sad all the time and depressed. None of my relatives even meet us now because of how he has become. He has changed too much in such short time and I haven't adjusted to all this yet.

Q: I am married and have kids. Through out my marriage I had a lot of problems. I stayed because of my kids. The issues were mainly my wife is listening to her brothers and parents who have just become rich and I still belongs to the middle class. She just argued on everything and when she is at her parents home she lies about me (means doing Gheebat in indirect ways). She goes with her parents on outings without me. I clearly told her that try to live happily with the salary I earn and don't keep your eyes on your brothers money. But then she started arguing by saying that my brother is giving me money and taking me out and you have to live alone if you cannot spent for me and for yourself. (If I to her as Greedy, I would be correct). She even shouts in front of me and doesn't even let me touch her as for marital intercourse or for anything and just saying that you are having just lust for sex, but cannot fulfil my other dressing and so on. She even prays 5 times a day and reads Qur'an also. Will it be acceptable by Allah Ta'ala in this situation? Please help and also advise that what should i do?

Q: Its almost going to be two years of my marriage. I have a kid who's mashallah going to be 3 months. I don't know what is wrong with me and my husband. We have lots of arguments and lots of fights for useless reasons. Where I try to make him understand certain things, he does not listen and things I am taunting him. In result we stop talking to each other for a week. This happens every two weeks. Please advice what has to be done.

Q: My Husband's mother is a non Muslim and lives as a lesbian. I don't want to be seen in the road with her and do not like going there, nor do I want to send my daughter. My husband thinks I don't like his mother but it's the fact that her lifestyle is disgusting and I am trying to protect my daughter from this. Am I wrong in not wanting to be associated with her and don't allow my daughter to go there without my husband or myself?

Q: Me and my wife had been married for 5 years. We have two kids. She is a very caring and loving wife, but due to some unwanted silly reasons, she can't accept my family members and wants us to stay away from them. We have a fight between us most of the time for this reason that she wants us to get separated from my family. Now she is even asking for divorce if I can't stay with her accepting the fact to exclude my family members from our life. My father, mother, brothers and sister hadn't done anything to harm her, but still she doesn't understand. Moreover I feel like she is trying to follow her mother, who has done the same thing with her father's family. But since her father was silent and listening to her mothers decision all the time he accepted it. But I am not able to accept this method of breaking relations. Kindly do let me know, what shall I do. Should I continue with her and break my family relation or accept her request for divorce?

Q: I got a sexual infection. I went to the doctor, the doctor said it was only sexually transmitted disease. I was infected by my husband but from where did my husband become infected. Allah ka shukar hai there is no big problem to cover the disease but I am confused about what am I to do with my husband? He is very nice with me and the kids but the fact is he cheated me. Please guide me.

Q: My husband refuses to find a job and has not been working for the last 2 years. He spends his days sleeping and watching TV. He also has a tendency to lie about everything and incurs debts behind my back. Is this a valid reason for talaaq?

Q: My question is regarding the ruling about living with in laws. Bring in UK for six years, I was living with in-laws for four years. Things are fine with brother in laws, they are yet unmarried and nearly of my age. We have limited, controlled good relationship. But my issue is with parents. In a small nutshell specially my father in law has not accepted me though I'm his relative. The wedding was fully arranged by my mother in law. She is ok with me. Good days bad days. But still she is not very open minded educated women. All this I came to know after coming here. As they were far relative. And on the time of wedding enquiry done by my parents, they lied and she told wrong things about their aqeedah, about husband's education (which is far less than me) his health physical and emotionally. His religious level (far far different approach than mine). She kept everything secret. I came to know very slowly when I came to him. It was too late then. As when I came to know I just lost my 34 years old brother in an accident very suddenly in the same days. It was very very big time for my parents in Pakistan. Mum got sudden Stroke. So I had to keep my mouth shut and show a happy face to them. With time I have two kids. Alhumduliah. (May Allah keep them safe and pious) But the first girl with in laws was not very lucky for me as they become very very harsh rude and unjust with me. It was the time I went to Pakistan and was ready for separation but after six months I came back with very very bad heart for the sake of the girls future. Husband is never a husband for me in front of his family. By the will of Allah we got a far away  flat in London when I was pregnant with a son. It was very very hard time. Health wise, emotionally, mentally. I was coming out with bad heart with broken emotions I had nothing there to see shining since 2008/2012 I had many big small fights. I heard many bad things for my parents. So don't even call their house. I heard bad bad scolding. I was utterly emotionally dead. Can't forget those words, those eyes. When I got moved. I again tried to keep good relations, going to visit them weekly. Stay at nights whenever possible. To show care. To let them play with kids and let them feel happy. Forgetting past. But even then his dad insulted me whenever he gets reason or not. I think he hates me utterly. He never see any any good thing in me. Now question is my husband and his parents really want me to move back and stay with them. So they will have kids all the time. They are forcefully saying. I'm stuck no way. He says I miss them more I want to live with them. My kids should grow with them. I had bad experience to last month. When he shouted at me for twice for no reason infront of everyone. My kids wants to go as now we are in flat. There they have Garden and full house. I know soon they will be very nosy with me. However limits I will keep. I will be insulted. I will be scolded. I will be emotionally tried. My husband will be only dummy in front of them. My kids will be out of control fully. As they don't tell them to listen to your mom. I can go back. But I'm very very affraid. Please help me what should I do. Here houses are at high rent. And if luckily we will find anything they will hate me more. If I will go they will scold me more. Soon another brother in law is going to be married . she is from UK. A love marriage. She will be compared and more pressure for me. Kindly help me in the name of Allah. Guide me to best path by the will of Allah. Save me from wrong decision. To go back. How.? If stay how to avoid therefor hatred for me. I am alone very alone in this country. Nothing to seek sincerity. But big big thanks to Allah as He is with me. (kindly forgive me for bad English, bad spellings. May Allah I have told the truth. And may my question is clear for you)

Q: My wife and I separated due to her being being unfaithful. She was pregnant with my child at that time and I didn't issue her with her 3 Talaaqs. During the period of separation the guy she was caught with went and got one of his "contact moulanas" to do another nikah with my wife.

1. So I need to know what is that status of my marriage?

2. Is her second marriage valid?

3. If she wants to come back must we make nikaah again or I just take her back?

4. How do we go about reporting moulanas who mislead and do wrong things?