Q: If I am married for 11 years and my husband never really had a steady job he hardly buys me and our kids clothes. When he does get a job now and then he only buys food, once a while gives me a few Rands to buy me something. Is it permissible to divorce him?
Q: I want to find out, a friend of mine wants to take a second wife. He has kids from his 1st wife. He doesn't love her and they hardly communicate. He is staying with her because of the children. Reason for wanting a second wife is because he wanted the happiness and all of the duties a wife should see to. Should he leave the 1st wife?
Q: I require advise on the following:- I am married, living and working in town A, my mother -in- law is living in town B. My father-in-law recently passed away and prior to his demise, my husband had moved in with his parents in town B, to look after his father. My husband has continued living with my mother-in-law, for the duration of her idaat, he has thus been away from home for almost a year. I cannot move to town B where my mother-in-law is, as I am working and would take me at least two hours to commute to work. I cannot give up my job as I have dependants' to support. My mother-in-law refuses to move to my town (A), my husband thus has to stay with her. The situation is becoming untenable. My husband keeps on insisting that his first priority is his mother, I understand that, but would that entail excluding the rights of a wife? Under the aforesaid circumstances what rights do I have?
Q: I plan on making nikaah next weekend and need to know if its allowed. This man and I have known each other since school but I married another. That marriage didn't work and I've been divorced for 5 years. I have twin sons (13 years). My school friend and I have now reunited and plan on making nikaah. He has daughters in their teens who live with him.
1. Is nikah allowed?
2. Can our children live together?
3. We heard a man is not allowed to marry a girl from his past. Is this true? We had no relation back than. We were just teens.
Q: I am married and pregnant. I loved my husband so much and I am his second wife but his first wife is a problem to me because she is sending me messages all the time, but she is a Haafidha. But all that she says doesn't look like she has the holy Quran in her head and because of this I am tired of this man and I feel like separating from him. What should I do?
Q: I'm married for 5 years and have no kids. My husband is a relative. My husband was having affair with his cousin before and after my marriage and he committed zina with her and taken photos of it. My in laws never supported me and started torturing me for dowry. I got separated in 2010 December because of his zina. Since then i'm living with my parents. In between my elders bought us back together many times in these 4 years but he did not change. his mother and his aunt control him. and his family is ruining my name in families. All the time they get away easily even though they are at mistake. In December 2013 my husband visited my house many times but only to lie and cheat me again. he told his mother and aunt don't want me to come so he did not take me with him. I called them for counselling many times they did not come. My case is in court now. My dad paid for my wedding by taking loan. My in laws made my dad pay for reception and also took lot of money prior marriage. I was working during separation as my husband never supported financially. But from two years i'm not working. But my husband has hired a lady lawyer and is not willing to give back our money spent in wedding nor paying maintenance. Even in court i'm failing. What ever i do i always fail in life. I want my in laws to do out of court settlement and return our money as my father is under heavy debt. His family is very heartless. I'm 30 years now. I want talaq from him so that they give me back our money and gifts given to me by my parents in wedding. I'm really worried every single second of losing this case as my in laws are criminal mind and very cunning specially my husband. They are trying to prove that i deserted him and i have ruined his life and tortured him. his lawyer is arguing in court not to give maintenance to me. Please give me a wazifa so that my husband divorces me and pay me maintenance in out of court settlement and this court case gets closed. I come from poor family. I'm the only daughter of my parents. There is no peace in our lives. All in my khandaan know my in laws are at fault but still i'm suffering.
Q: I am my husbands second wife. We married 9/10 years ago without anyones knowledge i.e my family. He promised and swore he would ask for my hand in marriage after his visa issues were resolved. Alhamdulillah last year July he got his visa issues resolved after nearly 12 years, he went back home to see first wife, I accepted all this but now its time for him to accept me with my families knowledge and he won't. His sister and brother in law have also tried talking to him telling him he is oppressing me and doing injustice with me as he has kept me waiting 11 years. Please could you give me some Dua I can make for my husband to treat me right and also accept me properly Islamically. We live 5 hours away. Whenever I have met him and spoke to him on his face he has reassured me and then when I leave he cuts everyone out, no one is sure why he is doing this. He has told me and his sister he loves me. Is this shaitan stopping him doing the right thing? He is not active in prayers but does pray Jumma. Please advise what I can pray or which dua I can make for my husband?
Q: I am married and have children. Throughout my marriage, I had a lot of problems, but I stayed in the marriage because of my children. The problems were mainly related to my husband going out with friends and returning home late at night and not showing us any attention. Also, he spends a lot of his time watching porn and speaks freely to women. What should I do? I only cry and feel helpless. I want to leave. What does Mufti Saheb advise me to do?
Q: I need help urgently. I have been married for more than four months. We have had problems with the husband's family and them not likening me and I also have been taking my anger out on my husband but now he has left me at his mothers house and not speaking with me or letting me know where he is! I am really scared and I want him back. Please help me. I want my husband to understand me and come back to me and his family to stop causing trouble for us and he is being controlled by his mum, sister and his family.
Q: I'm a born Muslim who married a revert. Sometimes he comes home having consumed alcohol. Does it effect my daily salaah and am I allowed to sleep on same bed with him? Please help me to help him leave his bad habits and become a good Muslim and also will I be punished in the grave for his wrong doings? Since I married him I would appreciate an urgent reply.