mother in-law

Marital problems

6 years ago By user2

Q: My queston is related to wife not obeying her husband. We are married for more than 1 year. After my marriage, my wife don't like my mother she has problems with my mother daily and she creates some issue on it. I understand she is new to my family and needs time to adjust. She has made a negative image about my mother in her mind and she didn't see her positive side. I agree that sometime my mother is not right. I daily explain to my wife to please obey me and respect my mother.

My mother never asked her to cook food or to obey her. She doesn't interfere in my life but beacuse my wife has created a negative image about her she didn't like her. She always saysthat  aap stand nhi leta aap mujhe support nhi karta all that. I know my mothers nature. She is not like that, in every family few thing happen but my mother what she say she take it as negative. She always says that my mother is not understanding and that she is married. She needs to draw a line daily.

Now with grace of Allah she give birth to a beautiful baby girl. I thought things will change but it is going worst. My daughter is 21 days old and she doing the same thing. I don't want to leave my mother but I don't want to leave my wife and child. I try my best to explain to her through hadis and dua but she is not understanding. I try to explain to her what the Prophet says when your parents reach old age. Don't say anything to them and keep patience but she is not understanding because of that my health is impacting tension depression etc. I dont know what should I do If u ask me she is loosing my respect. She is not on my expectation, she is not obeying her husband. Please tell what should I do if u ask me I dont place for her in my heart I just ask her to respect my family she is not doing so daily we have fight I am tensed and in pressure please suggest me the positon solution in lighting of islam

Distancing one's child from lesbian grandmother

7 years ago By user2

Q: My husband’s mother is a Christian. She is a lesbian and lives with another woman and is not shy about their relationship. I don’t like this situation and don’t like going to visit especially with our children, however I know I cannot keep my husband away from his mother. My daughter is big and has questioned me on this relationship that she can see. I have advised her that this is wrong in every way possible and has reminded her of the story of Nabi Lut (alaihis salaam). Is it wrong of me not to want to visit or be seen in public with her? I don’t like being associated with her at all and this is difficult for my husband to understand because it is his mother. How can I make my husband understand because I feel very strongly about not being associated with her although I am because I am married to him. Can mufti give advice on this situation please.

Son-in-law making advances towards mother-in-law

7 years ago By user2

Q: What remedial measures does one have to take if the son-in-law has been advancing and inviting his mother-in-law for sexual pleasures. He also reveals this to his wife that he is thinking of her mother during family life in bed. Is the marriage alive? The discord of his wife became unbearable and brought the subject to me (paternal uncle) and another cousin of hers. Both, the wife and her mother (my sister-in-law) have come with this complaint. And I am disturbed and helpless. I referred to Suraah No 58 first 5 verses and found it be a very admonishing sin and after hearing from another brother in Islam (source). Is it almost one talaq? Is the marriage still alive? The girl, my niece, does not want to live with this man any further. She is seeking separation (Khula). Keeping in mind her father's financial constraints and health and for the livelihood future of hers and her young age (sinners wife) children's future, we want the marriage to be kept alive. Please help with appropriate reply. 

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